(Closed) MOB Dress Inappropriate? Am I overreacting?

posted 8 years ago in Family
  • poll: Am I over reacting to this dress?

    No, I would not be happy if my mom wore that to my wedding

    Yes, that dress is lovely and completely appropriate

    Eh, it is a little edgy but mostly elegant, don't make mountains out of molehills

  • Post # 107
    1039 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2004

    @MsLabRat:  I am voting that this is inappropriate.  I feel like if my mom wore that to my wedding my guests would be like wtf?

    Post # 108
    1306 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @MsLabRat:  when a  MOB or MOG starts planning as tho they are the prima donna of the day and making hair/makeup plans that seem doomed to fail, you should probably let them know very far in advance that the ceremony and reception will happen ON TIME, regardless of who isn’t there yet or what their reason for lateness is. Some moms make ridiculous plans that take too long and keep them from making the ceremony etc. Ive seen it. Not sure if it’s intentional BC they want to be center of attn and can’t put someone else first or if they are so busy planning how beautiful they’ll be that the don’t realize their timeline will make them miss the event. IMO better to be there and look normal than to be gorgeous and miss the main event (which is you and your Fiance, not her).

    also a good idea for you to prepare yourself now that you shouldn’t worry abt her timing at all. Ignore it. I’d bet that she will be very late (whether it’s for getting ready or for the ceremony), so you should only think of yourself, your Fiance, and maybe your dad or FIs parents as you plan. For instance, I’ve told my mom what time we’ll start getting ready and that she can come anytime then that works for her (meaning I know she will probably go on some day-of shopping trip or makeup/hair excursion- I don’t care or want to know). 

    Post # 109
    2203 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @MsLabRat:  I didn’t say throw a temper tantrum, I wouldnt actually say ” over my dead body”… it was a figure of speech. I love my Mom too much to let her make an ass out of herself so I’d approach it from the ” I love you and want you to look and feel great and this dress is going to draw the wrong kind of attention” angle. I’m sorry you aren’t close enough that you can’t do that. 

    Post # 110
    235 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I personally don’t think it’s appropriate for a wedding. maybe she will change her mind? maybe you can take her dress shopping and she’ll find something she will like more that’s not so revealing/innapropriate. i did that with my mom. i HATED the first dress she purchades. I took her shopping and found her a dress she loved more and i could handle. she returned the first dress.  everyone wins. 

    Post # 111
    3945 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I think the dress is highly inappropriate for ANYONE at a wedding, let alone the MOB. I think you need to sit her down and calmly explain yourself. Explain that while she finds it “understated” you do not like the sheer midrif, but if she would be willing to get panels, it would be fine. Make sure you find a comprimise with her…but seriously, what was she thinking? I don’t know how you feel about the strapless aspect (honestly, that’s not the biggest issue), but you could also suggest a coverup or shawl for the ceremony.

    And honestly, if you’re not super close with her, I think it’s better if you put your foot down and say these are my guidelines, I find this inappropriate. You shouldn’t have to worry about what your mother is wearing on your wedding day. 

    Post # 112
    8602 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    My mom would never dream of it! A strapless see through corset is so inappropriate for a wedding. That trend needs to stay in Vegas. 

    Post # 113
    133 posts
    Blushing bee

    I would seriously hate to be the mother of so many of these bees. Who the heck are you to tell your own mother what is ‘age appropriate’ for her. The only thing that matters is she feels good – have some respect for your own mother! If she can wear it at that age then fair play to her – you might as well dress her in an old nightgown and ship her to an old folks home if you have this attitude

    Post # 114
    129 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Latitude 41

    @mchitt329:  Yes! lol.  Those boobies are SCREAMING!



    Post # 117
    1290 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I dont think you can tell your mom what to wear, but hopefully you find someone, like an aunt, to tell her she will look foolish.  She may look young for 50 (or whatever her age is), but she wont look like she is in her 20s. 

    Post # 119
    419 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Sheer is just NOT appropriate for ANY wedding.  If you’re 15 or 50.  It’s in poor taste.

    If my mother sent it to me looking for my approval I’d be real with her, It looks good on her but just not appropriate for a wedding, especally one in a church.

    I can’t believe that some people feel bad for the mothers of women who’d be looking out for them.  I would not do it to control my mother or my day, but I’d say it to any friend going to anyone’s wedding or other religious/ceremoinal based event.

    Actually, I’d probably say it was in poor taste at any event.  It looks like something an upperclass escort would wear…or a stripper…like the kind of outfit that would have a detachable skirt.

    Post # 120
    10 posts

    It’s a pretty dress but it comes across as prom and youngish?  I’d like to think I’m super non-traditional but the sheer is way too much!

    Post # 121
    4682 posts
    Honey bee

    @MsLabRat:  Is there someone that your Mom is close to that she will listen to about advice on this? Honestly, I think she is going to embarass herself. 

    Post # 122
    702 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @JazzieB:  I’d tell my mum not to wear that out of respect for her. He’d make a total fool out of herself! 

    Post # 123
    92 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I  actually think it’s gorgeous! and I would hope fits better on top than the model. I would love to see my mom in something that is pretty and makes her feel confident. Admittedly I’m a bit “off beat” but I love when people wear unexpected things. I’m my circle most people wouldn’t even bat an eye. 

    however I do understand your concerns and I would ask for her to at least wear a jacket  or bolero and not a sheer shawl. maybe ask her to put in a panel with contrasting colors to really make a statement yet be more modest.

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