Post # 124
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@MsLabRat: I hope she is really slim with that sheer panel! Otherwise, she’s the one that has to deal with the pictures in the future. If she looks truly awful in photos then people are goig to judge her, not you. Let her wear whatever she wants, she’s old enough to know better and she can deal with the consequences/fallout if it doesn’t go over well.
Post # 125
I see your concern though yikes!!! As long as she is going to cover up the sheer panel then it should be fine. I was browsing through my photog photos and I’ve seen this as a popular trend for MOB/MOG to wear sheer bodice (and most of them were up there in age 50+) even if they were young and had an amazing body it’s not the appropriate place. You can have a tight strapless dress with the same effect but is more age appropriate. No one wants to look like they were “trying to hard”. do you think she will regret it for being to trendy/too revealing?
Post # 127
@MsLabRat: I’m not a huge fan of the style, but I don’t think it’s so awful that it’s worth intervening over. Yes it’s sheer, but it’s not THAT sheer, and it’s not tight through the hips or showing leg, so there’s some balance there, especially as she’s wearing a shawl. Yes it is a bit booby, but it might look different on her than on the model.
Some things are worth fighting for and some aren’t. FWIW, I tried to get my mum to wear a different dress too – the one she picked would have clashed violently with the corsage and I also felt it was too casual – and she ended up being quite annoyed that i even had the gall to ask her. And we have a good relationship.
Actually – I wonder whether a compromise would be to let your mum wear that dress for the reception, and choose something else for the official photos – buy her a new dress yourself if you have to. That’s basically what I did with my mum (it also helped that I was changing dresses too, and the “offending”‘dress went well with my reception dress).
Post # 128
While I’m not a huge fan of the sheer, I don’t think it’s that noticeable. And really, other than that, the dress is beautiful. Who cares if it’s strapless? Unless you’re having a religious ceremony where your shoulders need to be covered, I don’t see why it’s an issue for the MOB to wear strapless. Just because she’s older doesn’t mean she’s dead and has already started decomposing.
I’d let her wear the dress and say nothing more about it. It is your wedding, yes, but you don’t get to choose what everybody wears. You get to choose your dress, you get input on FI’s suit, you get your pick on the bridesmaids and groomsmen and flower girl/ring bearer, and that’s it. That’s where it ends. From there, everyone gets to choose what they wear to your wedding, whether you like it or not.