(Closed) Is my mother’s MOB Dress inappropriate?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

If it bothers you – tell her!

The only persons opinion on whether it is appropriate or not is yours and it is hard for me to judge without a pic of the dress!

Post # 4
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1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Hilary Clinton had a fabulous dress for Chelsea’s wedding and Chelsea still looked amazing and was the center of attention. However, Hilary’s dress was fushia. Maybe you can find a really similar dress in a color. Maybe you could post the dress. Do keep in mind that once you are down the aisle your mom will sit down and you’ll be getting married and the center of attention.

Post # 5
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5153 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

If it bothers you I think you should sit your mom down and tell her! Let her know…nicely 🙂 And maybe have some options you’ve found online that are similar in style to the one she liked.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

my thoughts exactly.  You’re the bride, so unless your mother starts making a scene and PUTTING herself in the spotlight, you’ll constantly be the center of attention.  However, voice your concerns and feelings.  The worse she can do is object and get it anyway.

I’ve actually talked a friend who’s going to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man to dress up in a very sexy outfit (costumes required for wedding party and welcomed for guests, lol).  I’m fully aware that she’s got an amazing figure and will stand out, but she’s a great friend and I want her to have the most fun (especially since I know there will be lots of single guys there, hehehehehehe).  I know my Fiance and I will be the center of attention, no matter who wears what, so it doesn’t concern me.

No matter who wears what (unless it’s another bridal gown) you and your Fiance will be the center of attention because YOU are who the party and celebration is all about.   

 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I really need to see a pic of the dress to decide, but if you think it’s inappropriate, since it is YOUR wedding, you should tell her. Just try to do it gently..

Post # 8
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1103 posts
Bumble bee

I think it would be fair enough to say “Mum it’s a gorgeous dress that looks great on you, but I’m just worried that it’s even fancier that my dress, and I’m the bride! I think it might be better if we found you something that was more in keeping with the style of wedding we are going for, but still makes you feel great.” I would make it more about the wedding itself than her dress or taste in clothes. Good luck – I dreaded having to have this conversation with my mother (but in the opposite way – her not looking fancy enough) but in the end she bought something absolutely perfect and I thankfully didn’t have to 🙂

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

As a mother and a daughter, I highly recommend telling her how you feel. I am sure your mother was just so excited at finding something she loved and looked good in, that she let her judgement be clouded.

Have a heart to heart with her, I’m sure she will understand.

Post # 11
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558 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

wooaah!  That is definitely way too bridal if she is walking you down the isle.  You should talk to her; the other bees have great suggestions on how to broach this topic!

Post # 12
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4546 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If it really bothers you, talk to her and see if you guys can work something out.

Post # 13
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226 posts
Helper bee

Thats too bridal in my opinion. ANd if its going to bother you then you need to tell her. Good luck!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wow – I thimk that would bother me too!

I would tell her how you feel and then try and find something similar in a brighter colour!

Good Luck!

Post # 15
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201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I definitely wouldn’t have a problem with it. Your mom is probably just excited to have the opportunity to dress up in something glamorous for the day.  Nobody is going to outshine the bride.  All eyes will be on you, regardless of what your mom wears.  I know some mother/daughters who are very competitive with each other, but trust me….your day will be all about you, not your mom 🙂

Post # 16
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Newbee

Definitely not appropriate, unless of course she is trying to steal your thunder.

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