Post # 1
I need your help with this one. I’m a little over one month into wedding planning, and have my colors chosen: chocolate and moss. Two of my three bridesmaids have been in dark brown weddings in the last year (each with cute dresses). Since they all have very different body types and dresses can be expensive, I’d love it if they could get one more use out of their dresses. I’m actually kind of excited that they won’t be matching, since they have such different personalities.
My mom told me last week that she wanted to wear dark brown too. I sort of tensed up at the thought of her in the same color as my ‘maids. My mom is the kind of woman that wants to walk me down the aisle and do a mother-daughter dance (although I have a great relationship with my dad AND my step dad). I told her that there are plenty of other colors that she could wear to compliment the wedding party, instead of match. Maybe if the girls were all in matching dresses, it wouldn’t matter as much that she was in the same color, but I want her to look like my mom, not a misplaced bridesmaid.
Did I do the right thing? What would you have done?
Post # 3
My mom is wearing the same color as my maids (black) I didn’t think it was that big of a deal, although I’m not exactly studied up on etiquette. She just found this dress and LOVED it, so how could I say no to mama!? 🙂
Post # 4
I agree with you. One way you could try to tell her is that since she’s the mother of the bride, you’d rather her stand out on her own rather than blend into the bridesmaids colors. Complementy colors work well, maybe she could do a light shade of brown instead of dark?
My colors are brown and lilac and the BMs are wearing lilac, my mom and Future Mother-In-Law are both wearing different tones of brown dresses. That way they still coordinate but have their own look.
Post # 5
My mom is wearing the same color as my BMs (black). According to etiquette rules, the MOB and MOG aren’t supposed to wear black, because it symbolizes "a disapproving mother-in-law." I don’t really care about that; my mom and Future Mother-In-Law are both completely happy with the marriage.
I asked my mom about wearing a different color that was still in the same family (pewter, grey, etc.). But when it came down to how comfortable she was with how she looked, she liked black more (99% of her everyday clothes are black anyway). In the end, I would rather my mom feel beautiful in a black dress than so-so in another color.
Just my thought, but if she walks you down the aisle, no one will think she is a bridesmaid…at least I wouldn’t think that.