(Closed) MOB MOG Dress DRAMA

posted 5 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Are the dresses too similar?
    Yes, one of them should change dresses : (3 votes)
    5 %
    No, the dresses are fine. : (46 votes)
    78 %
    Mother of Bride should change her dress : (3 votes)
    5 %
    Mother of Groom should change her dress : (7 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    11752 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think it’s fine if MOG has no other options, howver customarily the MOB is supposed to chose her dress first, then the MOG chooses something to complement (but not match it).  However, your mom put off chosing a dress, so I don’t think it would have been fair at this point to make MOG wait that long to chose a dress for herself.  

    If it’s going to start drama with your mom, ask MOG if she has another option (if she doesn’t, oh well it’s kind of your mom’s fault for waiting so long to chose her dress).  If it’s going to start drama with MOG, then she needs to just get over it. I would not change your moms dress.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1607 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would leave it. I don’t think any one will even notice. I think this will be one of those things that only you the Future Mother-In-Law and your mom would ever even notice.

    Post # 5
    Member
    3943 posts
    Honey bee

    I wouldnt worry about it. Although the color is similar, the dresses look very different. Nobody will even notice and it’s a small detail you wont even pay attention to on the day of.

    Post # 8
    Member
    6824 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Honestly I would just leave it, no one is going to care or remember their dresses anyway.  It is not worth the fight

    Post # 10
    Member
    1060 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I actually think it is nice when the families of the bride and groom all coordinate with similar colours. I think both dresses compliment eachother and are similar but not TOO similar. However, if this is going to cause your MOG to cause drama, I would suggest getting your mom to find something else.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1607 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @ashleyr0512:  Easy fix – lol – have her try on the dress infront of someone and have them say the dress doesn’t really compliment her body well. It sounds like she’s the type to buy a new dress immediately.

    This is low – I know. I have a weird, amazing realtionship with my Future Mother-In-Law – I would just ask her to come shopping with me and we will find something new. If you guys don’t have this – do plan A and have her ‘model it’ for your Fiance or Future Sister-In-Law or someone you can equally trust to keep it between you.

    Post # 12
    Bee
    1835 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

    Oh gosh don’t worry about it! The most important thing is that they both feel comfortable, even if they wore matching dresses nobody would notice! 

    I don’t think it’s fair for MOB to have “first choice,” either… Isn’t the MOG just as important? I would be hurt if I were the MOG…Really, it sounds like they both are happy with those dresses, just go with it!

    Post # 13
    Member
    1547 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    @Pink Asawa:  +1

    i think it would look cute that both of them have similar dresses. they’re different enough

    Post # 14
    Hostess
    8146 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    i think it would be cute if they matched! that being said, i heard somewhere that etiquette is MOB gets first choice! Future Mother-In-Law shouldnt have bought anything yet.  but thats how my did it  🙂 IMO.

    Post # 15
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    9550 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think it will be perfectly fine for them to wear those dresses. Nobody will care except maybe your Future Mother-In-Law. If she’s too stressed about it she can get another dress, if she wants. She’s already gotten several, so I wouldn’t feel bad about it. Maybe a brief explanation that it was harder for your mom to find a dress she was comfortable in, and so you’re not going to ask her to change.

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