Post # 1
I have a bit of dress drama going on with my Future Mother-In-Law and Mom. My Future Mother-In-Law has bought 3 different dresses over the last year to wear to the wedding. My mom just started looking this weekend. My mom is plus size (size 18/20) and very insecure about her body. Future Mother-In-Law is a size 14. I battled my mom all weekend trying to get her to step outside her comfort zone and get a dress that would love great on her. I want her to feel confident and beautiful on my wedding. It was truly a fight to get her to out of the potato sack look. FINALLY—we found a dress we could BOTH agree on. It wasn’t my first choice but was definitely a compromise for the both of us. We purchase the dress and leave. Later i am talking with Future Mother-In-Law and she asks to see a picture of the dress so i show her. Turns out she thinks the dress is close to the same color as the one she already purchased to wear. When i asked her previously what color the dress was she told me it was a dark blue like royal blue. This is what i had in mind when i was dress shopping with my mom.
Bees, Do you think the dress is too similar? If it is how should i fix this situation? is it Okay for them to have similar dresses? I’ve been told that MOB should get first choice at a dress. But at the same time i am pretty annoyed my mom has waited until the LAST minute to start looking. We only have 30 days until the wedding.
What do ya’ll think?
Dress 1 is MOB Dress:
Dress 2 is Future Mother-In-Law dress
Post # 3
I think it’s fine if MOG has no other options, howver customarily the MOB is supposed to chose her dress first, then the MOG chooses something to complement (but not match it). However, your mom put off chosing a dress, so I don’t think it would have been fair at this point to make MOG wait that long to chose a dress for herself.
If it’s going to start drama with your mom, ask MOG if she has another option (if she doesn’t, oh well it’s kind of your mom’s fault for waiting so long to chose her dress). If it’s going to start drama with MOG, then she needs to just get over it. I would not change your moms dress.
Post # 4
I would leave it. I don’t think any one will even notice. I think this will be one of those things that only you the Future Mother-In-Law and your mom would ever even notice.
Post # 5
I wouldnt worry about it. Although the color is similar, the dresses look very different. Nobody will even notice and it’s a small detail you wont even pay attention to on the day of.
Post # 6
My mom won’t mind it being similar. But Future Mother-In-Law is the type to remember it and hold a grudge for the next 80 years. Kinda wondering if the dress is worth it. I know the MOB gets first shot but she should not have waited until the last minute. I can’t fault MOG for planning ahead .
Post # 7
Also, I haven’t seen MOGs dress in person. Maybe the picture makes the dress appear a different color than it actually is in person.
Post # 8
Honestly I would just leave it, no one is going to care or remember their dresses anyway. It is not worth the fight
Post # 10
I actually think it is nice when the families of the bride and groom all coordinate with similar colours. I think both dresses compliment eachother and are similar but not TOO similar. However, if this is going to cause your MOG to cause drama, I would suggest getting your mom to find something else.
Post # 11
@ashleyr0512: Easy fix – lol – have her try on the dress infront of someone and have them say the dress doesn’t really compliment her body well. It sounds like she’s the type to buy a new dress immediately.
This is low – I know. I have a weird, amazing realtionship with my Future Mother-In-Law – I would just ask her to come shopping with me and we will find something new. If you guys don’t have this – do plan A and have her ‘model it’ for your Fiance or Future Sister-In-Law or someone you can equally trust to keep it between you.
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
Oh gosh don’t worry about it! The most important thing is that they both feel comfortable, even if they wore matching dresses nobody would notice!
I don’t think it’s fair for MOB to have “first choice,” either… Isn’t the MOG just as important? I would be hurt if I were the MOG…Really, it sounds like they both are happy with those dresses, just go with it!
Post # 13
@Pink Asawa: +1
i think it would look cute that both of them have similar dresses. they’re different enough
Post # 14
i think it would be cute if they matched! that being said, i heard somewhere that etiquette is MOB gets first choice! Future Mother-In-Law shouldnt have bought anything yet. but thats how my did it 🙂 IMO.
Post # 15
I think it will be perfectly fine for them to wear those dresses. Nobody will care except maybe your Future Mother-In-Law. If she’s too stressed about it she can get another dress, if she wants. She’s already gotten several, so I wouldn’t feel bad about it. Maybe a brief explanation that it was harder for your mom to find a dress she was comfortable in, and so you’re not going to ask her to change.
Post # 16
thanks everyone!!! you guys are making this a lot easier to deal with!!!