Post # 1
Hey bees, how did you go about your moms choosing there dresses? I’m not sure if I should suggest colors, let them wear what they want….what do you say let them choose or havethem stay is he wedding colors?
Post # 3
I didnt say anything to them about their dresses. My mom just went shopping and found something she liked. She showed me and I thought it looked great also so she went with that. It just happen to be a very dark plum/purple and my colors were red and purple. My Mother-In-Law told me she had a gold dress, dont know if she had it or bought it. I didnt see it until the day of the wedding. Neither of them knew what my wedding colors were.
Post # 4
I asked my MOG and MOB to stay within the wedding colors but with wiggle room. My colors were gray and blue and I told them both to wear either color in any shade. I also asked that they both have tea length/shorter dresses rather than long/formal dresses and something they would want to wear again. From there it was completely up to them what to buy. They both did a great job picking a dress.
Post # 5
My mom and Future Mother-In-Law picked what they wanted. I only asked that they not wear eggplant since the BMs where in that color, which was fine with them because neither one wanted to wear purple.
Post # 6
Shopping was really painful for both MOB and MOG – they both struggle with their self appearances, so all that I asked is that the two of them complemented each other in color. To restrict moms on color is a tough way to go. I would leave them as broad of restrictions as possible, and work from there.
Post # 7
It really depends. My mother dresses well and know what a mob/mog should wear (my brother got married 4 years ago). She specifically does not want to wear the same color as the bridal party. She told me she was having trouble finding anything she liked in stores, so I sent her links to websites like David’s Bridal and JCPenney that have pages specifically for MOB/MOG. I know she’ll find something awesome though that is classy and age appropriate.
I took the same approach with my Future Mother-In-Law and regret it. She picked out a used bridesmaids dress from a thrift store that is the floor length version of my BM’s dresses in pastel green (for an evening Fall wedding). She insists on wearing it, but it’s 2 sizes too small. I can only hope she doesn’t fit in it. The week we got engaged she said, “What do you want me to wear?” and I wish I took charge. I said I trusted her judgement. I shouldn’t have!
Post # 8
So far, only my mother has been shopping. She was set on a pewter color the entire time and is now having a hard time finding any she likes. My mother has never worn a gown her entire life (or at least my whole life) and feels uncomfortable and indifferent to all of them. So far her top contender is a black dress I think looks great on her. Shes hesitant because she thought she wanted silver, but is totally over shopping.
Future Mother-In-Law is a totally different story. When my mother told me she wanted to wear silver I asked Future Mother-In-Law if she would wear gold. I thought it would be a nice contrast with my only Bridesmaid or Best Man in black. She didn’t have to say yes but she did. Gold has evolved into copper, which is fine. However, the style of dresses shes picking online is totally over the top. She even sends me dropped waist bridal gowns she’d like dyed or come in champagne. She hasnt been out looking yet, so who knows how it will go. If she finds something she really likes in a differnet color I wont get mad or tell her she cant wear it, unless its some outrageous tyedye looking thing.
Post # 9
I just suggested my mom to wear a color thats not too dark (like navy) so that it would fit in with the bridal part and she wouldnt stand out (BMs are in taupe and MOG is wearing champagne/gold). I think it’s a reasonable suggestion!
Post # 10
I let them choose whatever they wanted. My mom picked out a knee-length eggplant dress and Future Mother-In-Law picked out a knee-length gold-tone dress. I didn’t worry about them choosing dresses because they both have good taste, plus I’d rather them be wearing what they like.
Post # 11
My mom and I went shopping, and she got a great dress in a dark greyish blue. I emailed the dress to Mother-In-Law and asked her to find something in the same formality, and asked that it not be purple. She chose a very informal dress in purple, so Fiance essentially forced her to buy a 2nd dress, where I gave her multiple options (like, 20) to choose from. Not my proudest moment, but it was ok for what it was. FI 100% HATES purple – I can’t figure it out, and he was really upset that his mother chose that color.
Post # 12
My mom bought my dress BEFORE we had a date, a venue, my dress, everything! FI’s mom still has yet to buy something, but I won’t give her any suggestions unless she asks.