(Closed) MoB vs. FI

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2201 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

That really stinks – I’m not in the same boat, but have you taken your mom aside and told her that it hurts you when she disregards your Fiance and his ideas? And that you are okay with his life plan and support his decision to finish school because it will help you as a family in the future?

And if she still doesn’t understand, tell her that you won’t allow her to put down your Fiance and if she doesn’t have anything nice to say, then she should shut up.

Post # 4
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It sounds like your mom is realizing that she’s losing you as her “little girl.” I suggest taking her out for a mom/daughter afternoon and talking to her about all this. Let her know you aren’t going to love her any less once you’re married!

Post # 6
531 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am in that same boat and we live next door to my mom.  Ha, mistake number one!  Not recommended.


Mine started while wedding planning, its like his opinion didnt matter and i had to remind her on several occasions that I was marrying him, not her.  Now that we are married she seems to like him less and less and nothing he does is right in her eyes.  She thinks i am changing more and more and i think its hard for her to realize that he is my husband and I will defend him first.  She went so far as to say that if she wanted to, she could object during the wedding cause i was hers first.  WOW!!!

I think she has a hard time dealing with that fact that im not her little girl anymore, however, i will always be, but she wants to be my priority.

You just have to tell her you love her but pt your foot down and make her understand that he is your husband (or will be very soon) and that things change in life.  It will take time.

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