Post # 46
I too would cancel the bridesmaid-hosted shower and just take the bride out for a luncheon.
I would not trust MOB one bit. If you hold it at the clubhouse and only invited the 33 people, MOB will extend an invitation to her church and there will be mass chaos (which will create issues for you at your HOA). Don’t put yourself in that position, especially with respect to your home.
If you hold it for the 33 people at MOB’s friends house, she will do the same and you will look like a bad host to the 33 guests who are expecting to be properly hosted. Just no.
Post # 47
yes. This. With some of her friends and bridesmaids. Leave the rest of the MOB’s guest list for her to decide what to do with.
Post # 48
Wait. I’m sorry if this has already been asked and answered & I missed it. A major thing was skipped over here and that is the MOB putting 500 people in her friend’s home. What? How? How does she intend to do this? How does she see this working out? Open house or not, FIVE HUNDRED people.
I would also just completely walk away from any type of shower with the mob & take the bride out on your own. If I’m really being honest I’d actually just step down from being a bridesmaid because I couldn’t deal with that bride either.