Post # 1
So, I only asked that our moms wear dresses that were long and NOT black. So, yesterday my husband to be’s mom shows me her dress. Guess what………it’s short and black. With a V-neck, just like my bridesmaids are wearing. What the hell?
Post # 4
Nothing. Rather than voice my opinion I just clammed up and didn’t say anything. I guess I missed my chance. I did make sure I showed her a picture of the bridesmaid’s dresses later in the evening. Maybe she’ll get a little hint.
Post # 5
I honestly wouldnt get too worked up over what the MOG wears.
Post # 6
Yeah, unfortunately you missed your chance. Also, that is the risk you take picking black for the wedding party- people always think of a LBD as their fallback choice for a dress.
While this might bother you, and she *might* not get the hint, I can tell you that there is a pretty good chance that at least one other guess will show up in a LBD as well. So, I wouldn’t stress about it too much.
Instead, focus on the ways you can make your BMs stand out. Fun shoes, a colorful wrap, etc. Basically things that they can have that MOG and guests won’t have that will subtly make them look different from the other guests.
Post # 7
You could still speak with her. Tell her that you were taken by surprise when she showed you the dress, that you recall asking her to wear a dress that was long and not black.
Ask her if she would like you to go with her to find another dress.
Post # 8
My motto for weddings is to pick your battles, and unless this is crazy important to you I would let it go. Everybody will know the difference between your Mother-In-Law and bridesmaids.
Post # 9
That’s a sticky subject. My future MIl told me she was going to go with a black skirt and a fancy white sleeveless blouse thing. Ummm… white? really?? I didn’t say anything. What you may be able to say without risking a battle is that it is really close to your BM’s dresses and see what she says.
Post # 10
I agree with artbee, you need to decide if this is the battle you want to pick with your Future Mother-In-Law. I would guess that there are going to be bigger things that you want to hold out for. I think the best idea is just o make sure there is a way to make your girls stand out. I am doing black dresses for my BM’s too but they are going to have yellow shoes and flowers in their hair to help them stand out form all of the other LBD wearers at the party!
Post # 11
She may have thought white was ok as long as it wasn’t a white dress or all-white suit. (That’s how I feel actually; it wouldn’t have occurred to me that a white blouse with a dark skirt would be a faux pas.)
Post # 12
@mightywombat: She probably didn’t even realize it either. It’s not that big of a deal though, it’s not like the entire dress is white!
Post # 13
Thanks everyone. I just needed to vent. I’m not going to fight this battle with her. She can wear whatever she wants. I’m pretty sure they will figure out that the 63 year old woman is not a bridesmaid. All I care about is my dress really.