Post # 1
Hi Bees! I found my dress a few months back and I’m truly in love with it. But as the days have gone by, the fact that my soon-to-be husband is a newly installed Pastor, plus the large amount of congregation members and high-ranking church people attending is making me wonder if I should cover up a bit. I’m a very independent woman and personally don’t think my dress is too sexy…but should I be a concerned about not offending and wear a bolero of some sort? Any ideas? This is a pic of my in my dress. April 2012 wedding (spring).
Thanks for your input!!
Post # 3
This dress is perfectly acceptable! It doesn’t have see through sides or anything, and isn’t revealing, you’re fine!!
Post # 4
i think it’s perfectly fine for the church. it’s not too clingy or sexy. i would keep it as is!
btw, you look wonderful in it!
Post # 5
Firstly I think your dress looks beautiful on you 🙂
Secondly, I think that if you’re going to be wearing your veil as you are in the photo then that would be enough coverage.
Have you asked your Fiance his opinion (you could do so without showing him the dress?)
Post # 6
It depends what type of church you go to. Some pastors wives are more liberal than others. personally the way my church is, I would expect lace sleeves or a bolero from the pastors wife. But again every church is different.
Post # 7
I don’t think your dress is too sexy or anything. And you have a veil covering your shoulders.
Why don’t you ask you FI’s opinion on strapless dresses at church? I wouldn’t normally wear a strapless dress to a sunday service, but I felt 100% okay in my strapless dress for my wedding.
Post # 8
I think there is a difference in wearing a strapless dress normally to church and your wedding dress. It isn’t like your boobs are hanging out, your dress is skin tight or any portion of your dress is sheer. I don’t think it is not okay for a pastor’s wife to wear.
Post # 9
Our officiant (and friend) is a pastor of a small Baptist city church in Texas and got married a couple weeks before us, his wife’s dress had a very similar neckline- I think you’re okay!
However, I agree with PP, checking with your Fiance about church policy.
Post # 10
Your dress is gorgeous!
I think it depends on how conservative the church is. If the congregation is very conservative then yes I would add a little bolero. If they are anything like my church, no one would bat an eye. But we are pretty casual. If you are still nervous about it, I would ask some of the church elders/high ranking people and see what they think. But I think I would leave it.
Post # 11
I think for the ceremony detachable sleeves or a bolero would be nice and then you can remove them for the reception – you do not look sexy or underdressed just maybe better to err on the more modest side given his profession
Post # 12
What rules does the church have? Usually women are required to cover their shoulders in God’s House and that extends to weddings too. You will need to consult with the church staff (a higher ranking pastor typically) to determine if the dress is appropriate or if you need to add something.
Post # 13
I come from a conservative family/church. I would say deep plunging necklines/lots of cleavage would be inappropriate and pretty much anything pnina tournai, lol (seethrough panels). I think your dress is gorgeous & nothing to worry about!
Post # 14
i concur 100% with dallasbride2012…. i would ask a few others just for opinion sake but i think its beautiful the way it is
Post # 15
Aks Fiance what the “rules” or guidlines are.
Post # 16
@danicalifornia: haha! Thanks so much. You’re right about Pnina! I’d drop a few jaws in one of those numbers, for sure.