Post # 1
I have finally come to the place in my wedding planning process where I realize: Bridezilla is not necessarily a negative term…
I began my wedding planning after months of an "unofficial" engagement… A formal agreement between my fiancé, myself, and both of our families but lacking the American symbol for commitment: the engagement ring. Soon thereafter I found myself studying etiquette guides (Emily Post is the reigning queen in my old-fashioned, traditionalist world) and I realized not only did I deserve my ring by a certain date, but that everything had to be PERFECT. I began corresponding with distant family members and in-laws, snagging our venue, florist, photographer, cake maker, string quartet, jazz quartet and so on for the covetous Labor Day Weekend 2009 – two years out naturally. Funny looks and probing questions ensued, but I ensured all of my vendors that we WOULD really be getting married in TWO years (after I graduated upon my parents’ recommendation) and that we WANTED to make our deposits as soon as possible.
Only eight months away from the Big Day, I find myself completely at peace with asking for more, going all out, and doubling my idea of what "expensive" means. I began this process with modesty and etiquette as my guiding lights, but now I am bringing friends with me to appointments, listing my vendors on my website, and joining WeddingBee.
Have I lost my mind? I have to admit, it feels kinda nice…
Post # 3
I don’t think you’re crazy, but just make sure your focus is in the right place. You said you were doubling your idea of expensive… I hope that means you’re just becoming more educated on the costs of certain options and not that you’re just getting sucked into what the industry thinks you should do. HOWEVER!! I think it is your day and you should prance around in all your happiness and enjoy yourself. Take from this what you will. 🙂
Post # 4
Haha. What a hilarious title.
I think you had quite a bit of time on your hands to plan. And thus, you are just maximizing your time by focusing on the details.
Well- if you think are becoming type A… it doesn’t matter what I think or anyone else. So long as you are keeping your priority’s straight, and your ‘other-half’ is happy, I say enjoy the process!
But if there is conflict arising from the added expenses and family/friends are calling you out on some personality changes… I would re-evaluate what you are trying to accomplish.
Either way only you know. =o) It sounds like you maintained your humor though. And hat is a good thing.
Post # 5
Sparkles, I think I’m getting a few eye-rolls fro my mom but that’s about the worst of it. The change in perception might just be a natural process of planning, rather than a lack of self-control. Well, that’s what I’m hoping for at least! But you’re right: if my personality changes so much that it makes me intolerable… than I’ve become selfish more than just self-absorbed!
I like prancing LLauRRa!!! I’m going to enjoy that part!