(Closed) Modesty in a Strapless Dress?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

I’m always surprised when people say that strapless dresses aren’t modest. I tried on a bunch of dresses, strapless and non, and the non-strapless dresses were way more low-cut and showed way more cleavage. For me, the strapless dresses were actually much more modest.

But if your’e really worried about it, I’d recommend wearing a bolero instead of adding straps. Spaghetti straps won’t really make it more modest, and anything thicker would look strange with the dress, I think.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Who were these people commenting on the strapless dress at the reception? Elderly churchladies? It’s one thing for people to comment if it was IN a church maybe, although really people should keep their opinions to themselves because strapless is just kind of the norm these days. But a reception? Come on. Are your family/friends really religious/traditional that you think they’ll actually comment on it? That’s so rude IMO. It is not immodest to have bare shoulders at a wedding reception.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Maybe a Bolero or a wrap/shawl but more importantly was the wedding you were talking about someplace that people might think inappropriate to have bare shoulders? Is your crowd a conservative crowd? Unless it’s inside a church or other religious sanctuary what’s the problem with bare shoulders? I’ve been hard pressed to find a dress that’s NOT strapless. Was the talk coming from a much older crowd?

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Seriously? This is the most bizarre thing I have ever read about wedding gowns. Someone tell the crowd to fast forward. I understand why some would not want a strapless gown for the ceremony in a place of worship, but at a reception? IT’S A PARTY! YOU’RE PROBABLY YOUNG! Rock the strapless – that’s all I am saying.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

It’s not anyone’s business to impose their cultural or religious beliefs on you. Wear what you want.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I could be wrong but I’m pretty sure it could be the Muslim religion I think it’s pretty taboo to show that much skin so that could be where it was coming from.

Post # 10
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16195 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Any of those other options would work if you want them. Don’t feel that you have to change your wedding day look, as long as it fits in your own standards of what is appropriate and beautiful.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

so wait, how many people at YOUR wedding will be Muslim? And will it be in a Catholic Church? I am Catholic and have seen a thousand different types of dresses enter a church, including strapless. But you can err on the side of modesty with a bolero…

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

I hate to point this out but if your friends are more mainstream american than his family and friends, they are likely to talk if you wear a “modest” dress.  🙂  It really really sucks that anyone feels free to judge what a woman is wearing as if it’s any of their business and not a ridiculous obsession but the truth is some people will be assholes no matter what.  Wear what you are comfortable with.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

sing it!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

Heh….it would be funny if guys showed off their shoulders at a wedding.

But honestly, I have no idea how being covered from chest to toes in white fabric is immodest.  It’s a gorgeous dress.  If your shoulders cause people to get aroused, I’m going to have to say that’s their problem….haven’t heard of too many people with shoulder fetishes.

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