Post # 1
To all the lovely modded brides out there, what will you be doing about it? Are you going to be rocking it or hiding it?
I’m being pressured to take out all of my piercings, and it is really disappointing because I’ve been eyeing some gorgeous gemmed anatometal tunnels and CBRs as wedding jewellery. There is an especially gorgeous septum segment ring with three little gems. So pretty!
Unfortunately, my (incredibly anti-mod) mother is footing most of the bill for the wedding, and as such she is pressuring me to take out my tunnels and piercings. It hurts because these things are a part of me now; they are part of who I am! Plus, I find them so gorgeous, they make me feel good about myself, and the last thing I want is saggy, jewellery-less lobes.
I’m so torn on what to do. Are any of you feeling the pressure? Are you giving in? Are you going modless by choice? Or are you just doing your thing with no one saying a word?
Post # 3
@LostInWonderland: Don’t give in! Wear what makes you feel beautiful and you. Explain to your mom that you won’t feel comfortable without your mods and hopefully she will understand.
I have tattoos and I’m rocking them for my day! 🙂
Post # 4
I keep telling myself that is what I want and that I’ll have the courage to stand up to her, but my resolve is wavering. We’re really close; I’d hate to hurt her on my wedding day, because, to her, it symbolizes her little girl growing up. Plus, she is being soooo generous that I don’t want to be disrespectful. 🙁
Good on you, though! I love tattooed brides. Especially if they go really traditional with their dresses; the contrast of the sort of “hard” tattoos and a “soft” gown is amazing.
Post # 5
My tattoos and piercings are a part of me, too, but I am respecting my mother’s opinion and I will be attempting to cover mine on my wedding day.
The way I see it, they don’t compliment my dress, and although I like them, they’re not the right ‘accessory’ to what I’m wearing.
I wouldn’t wear a giant black cross with my pretty white dress, so why show my tattoos if they’re going to look similar?
That’s just me, though!
(I am keeping my dreads, though!)
Post # 6
I don’t have any tattoos or piercings (other than ears) but I love seeing pictures of brides who do. I can understand that if mom is footing the bill and wants everything covered, it can be a hard decision to make but I personally wouldn’t cover anything or take my piercings out.
Post # 7
My tattoos won’t really be showing except the one between my shoulder blades and the ones on my feet. The one between my shoulder blades I’m covering with makeup (because it’s ugly) and the ones on my feet (my favorites, chibi Star Wars characters) will be seen a little. I’m not really that modified anymore (well, I have nine tattoos, but they’re all covered).
I do have BMs with mods, though. Two have foot ink, one has lots of arm ink and stretched lobes, one has ink on her collarbone. I love it. I bought the girls earrings and am buying a similar pair of plugs for my one Bridesmaid or Best Man.
As for your mother, show her what your ears look like without your plugs. That was the argument I had with my old manager because we weren’t supposed to have facial piercings. I asked her which she’d rather see: a little nose stud or an open hole in someone’s nostril (complete with visuals!), and she went with the stud.
Post # 8
I have tattoos that I’m covering, just because I dont like the way it looks in my dress etc., plus its small so i dont care to showcase it lol
My nose is pierced and im keeping it in.
My ears are stretched and i’ll be wearing plugs like this:
Post # 9
That’s true. If you’re doing it for you, all the power to you. Bonus that it makes your mother happy!
Love your Star Wars tattoos! And good idea on showing my mother my ears without any plugs. Maybe it will convince her. I mean, I usually have them out around her since I know it bothers her so much and I don’t want to rock the boat because, other than the mods thing, we’re really close about everything else so I don’t feel its worth it. The fact that is my wedding day, though, makes it different. I just want to look the way I want, you know? But even though she sees what they look like, I think she expects that I can still wear some sort of conventionally chandalier earrings or something since they are stretched on the smallish side. I don’t think she realies what will happen if I put heavy earrings in, though…
Goodness! Those are stunning! Maybe those are what I need. It is sort of a compromise because they’re plugs so my mother won’t have to stare through my ear… That is what bothers her the most. I /do/ really want these gorgeous princess cut gemmed tunnels, and that was my plan.
Those beautiful flower ones are equally as gorgeous, though, and may help keep her happy. Where did you get them?
Post # 10
Those are on Etsy.
That’s their shop. They seem to have a bunch of different ones. It looks to me as if it’s regular tunnels with the pretty parts glued on. I’m making all of my own jewelry, including the plugs. I’ll just use a plain pair and use E-6000 glue to glue on whatever I like. It’ll both save me a bit of money, and make them more special.
I like those, but I think having a style that doesnt allow your mom to see right through would be a good compromise.
Post # 11
I think that what you wear and how you present yourself is about the most personal decision you can make on your wedding day (except maybe ceremony wording?), so I would stand my ground. If you want to take things out or cover things because of how you want yourself to look oin wedding day in your dress, then go for it. But don’t let your mom pressure you into it. You want to feel like you. I don’t have much (just a tongue stud) but I’m definately keeping what I have! My family has dealt with it for the last decade, they can deal one more day.
Post # 12
I will have my tattoo on show ( on my fore arm, memorial for my nan). All my piercings will be on show (snake bites,Medusa,septum,stretched lobes).
Post # 13
I think you can compromise here… Money doesn’t take away YOU being hurt that she isn’t accepting a part of you. I’d rather turn down money for my wedding than cover my tattoos — I said in another thread on this, it’s love me, love my modifications. They ARE me.
That said, there’s no reason you can’t do something tasteful, piercing wise. Your piercings sound fantastic, I’m sure you can find something beautiful that your mom would consider bridal, for that sort of thing anyway. Something like what @Liinuska:
You should tell her that when she says she wants you to take out your jewelry, you feel that she is rejecting you as a person, because those things ARE you. Also, I totally agree that you really must fill those for your wedding, I don’t think you’ll ever be happy with the pictures if you have nothing in your earlobes!
I adore gauged ears, I think it’s such an awesome look (there but for an incredibly conservative employer go I) but do think *something* is pretty much required to be in the hole there for optimum prettiness.
Good luck! 😀
Post # 14
ive got a nose stud and septum as well as gaged ears and i am having a horrible time trying to decide if i want to keep it all or get rid of some. i will definitely keep the nose stud its not a huge deal but thinking of taking out the septum for that day and gettig new plugs that are kind of glitzy. eeh i dont know if i want to take out the septum or leave it it so i know your pain..
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2014 - Italiano\'s Humble
@LostInWonderland: I have one visible tat, and I’m hoping to at least have my first one redone, or my third one on the opposite shoulder in time. I’m rocking that shit! My body is my business. FH isn’t into tats, and has none, but he likes mine. They’re me, and I have been asked(mostly at David’s Bridal, wtf is their deals??!! LOL), if I’m going to cover them. I told one, “uh, NO, *I* don’t have to hide who I am to go out in public!” LOLOL!!!
If you DO decide to remove your ear mods(idk the term LOL), and keep in mind I haven’t read all the replies. But if you decide to remove them, could you possibly go with a large-base clip on earring? Just a suggestion. I say keep them, and do the “girly” thing, where you were talking about the ones for wedding-y jewelry!