Post # 1
I am totally in awe and in love with my fiancé. I am so happy to be engaged with him, however, evey time I show the ring there is just a sinking feeling that comes over me. It is simply just the opposite of all the directions I gave him when I suspected he might be making a purchase.
I asked for a sapphire center stone or at least side stones to save money on the purchase with a pave band. Instead I received a lovely and very expensive totally diamond ring. It is platinum with center cushion cut and two square side stones with a channel setting band enclosing more square diamonds. I am learning to love the square side diamonds (I also stressed I liked round) and love the detail of the three stones with beautiful diamonds even set in the prongs.
However, I just can’t get used to the band. It is an outdated channel setting of square diamonds with thick sides which I learned was his sister’s favorite part of the ring when picking it up from being resized.
I am really trying to learn to love it, and I have seen plenty on responses to similar posts that whatever he picked should just be cherished. I feel those responses are absolutely justified and I am trying. However, I just can’t imagine looking down at my finiger for the rest of my life and not being happy. I love my fiancé and I so appreciate that he wanted to pick the best ring, however the process was just rushed and I would have given more input if I thought he was really buying one!
I have broached the subject lightly and mentioned I am going to look into modifying it and pairing the conversation with wanting to maybe mold a sapphire pave wedding band to the ring to achieve the look I want. He seems to be reluctantly receptive and I feel I worded it correctly.
I know it’s past the return date, and I have fallen in love with the center mounting. I would just be so much happier with a pave vs chunky chanel band.
Had anyone tried to do this modification of the band from channel to a more pave look? Do I have to get a whole new band? I feel like that would really upset his feelings, so I want to work to just modify the band.
Ideally I would just like to have a pave band and pair it eventually with a thin saphire pave ring. But maybe molding saphire set pave diamonds above and below the band as the ‘wedding band’ could be an option? I also wonder if platinum makes it more difficult to modify?
I really appreciate the advice, and unfortunately upgrading or waiting five years for a new one just wouldn’t be an option I want to explore. In my area of the country you also wear your engagement ring on a daily basis.
Post # 3
It’s a lovely ring and suits your hand.
I don’t really have good advice on how to change it. You need to talk to a good jeweller. It may be simple to change to pave or it may be complicated.
However, do make sure that you choose a lovely wedding band. The advantage of channel settings is that they don’t tend to scratch other jewellery so whatever changes you make you’ll need to ensure that both rings complement each other and can work together.
Post # 4
Aw I think it’s gorgeous! And channel set is much much more secure than pave. When I look I see straight sparkles not the channel metal, and I love the square stones of the band, looks like it’s all diamonds!
Someone posts daily about losing diamonds from their pave settings, they rarely get to wear their rings- theyre always in the shop! It’s weak to begin with and I can only imagine a ring that’s been modified into pave would be more so.
You have the best of everything, a Ring Bearer center stone like you wanted, radiant sidestones which are so unique, and a blingy but secure band!
i say spare yourself the $$ and heartache, and get the wedding band/s you want.
Post # 5
I think that ring is gorgeous. However I’m a bit confused because I thought you said the center diamond was a cushion but it looks like a round brilliant to me. I’m not sure if they can modify the band to make it pave. It might be better to just find a similar mounting but with a pave band. Messing with the current shank could cause it to become weak.
Post # 6
I completely agree with MrsBuesleBee! Pave tends toward being insecure and lots of people get frustrated with it. Its very pretty and delicate looking but the channel you have is as well. Also the channel protects against wear and tear better. That said you should love your e-ring so I would try putting a pave wedding band behind it to see if that will help you love it. Your e-ring should not be thought of as stand alone but rather part of a set… Also if you decide to go pace I’m fairly certain you will need a new setting or at least will need your setting recast with gold added which will be a new setting… Good luck – congrats on the engagement!!
Post # 7
Verry pretty ring! I’m not sure if that is your ring or like your ring but I think it is lovely. I am a fan of pave set diamonds and usually don’t like the chanel set ones. But on your ring it looks great. You probaby will have to get a whole new setting if you want the pave. I think they can only add them if the band is plain bc they have to be drilled in. Maybe if you changed the square diamonds for round chanel set?
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
Your ring is lovely, and as PP state, channel set is more secure than pave in many ways. If you want to change to pave you need to consult a good jeweler.
Post # 9
Your description made the ring sound like its chunky and awful… It’s gorgeous! i honestly don’t think that changing it to pace setting will change the look of the ring THAT much, particularly as the centre and two side diamonds really are the key feature. Personally, i wouldn’t change a think. Perhaps if you want something more delicate you could consider keeping the band and centre stone and renove the two side stones.
Post # 10
I also agree with mrssloan… Looks round to me. And your two side look cushion not princess
Post # 11
I think your ring is beautiful. I really wanted a pave wedding band until I tried one on. I found it uncomfortable and ended up with a beautiful channel set band so you need to speak to a jeweler and try on some other rings and see if the change is possible and worth it.
Post # 12
I love the channel! I think it’s gorgeous, I wouldn’t change a thing! Pave makes me nervous because so many people had problems with stones falling out. My FI’s sister in law had her enagement ring a week and she lost TWO stones because her band was pave.
I love pave and all, but I think I would keep the channel because it’s just as gorgeous, it’s more comfrotable, and a hell of a lot more secure. Since I’m rough on my hands, that’s a big plus for me.
Like the PPs, talk to a jeweler. You will probably need to take all the channel diamonds out, fill the space with metal, drill holes, then set the diamonds, — or — your whole ring will need to be redone. I would ask around and get a quote first before making a decision.
My opinion? Keep it! 🙂
Post # 13
That really is a beautiful ring. I don’t see how you could change the band, you would probably need a whole new band. It really isn’t as chunky as you are imagining it. I think your ring is very stylish. I don’t have experience with pave bands but hope to avoid them due to so many people having problems with the setting not being as secure as a chanel setting.
Post # 14
Looks like a round brilliant flanked by two cushions.
It’s a beautiful setting, but if you want pave I suspect you will have to get another band that accomodates the three stones.
Post # 15
Thanks all! I am going to talk to a jewler, maybe there is a way to thin the chanel a bit without making any drastic decisions. And looking at wedding bands that compliment.