(Closed) MOG and MOB NOT getting along

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 4
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1747 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I had high hopes for my mom getting along with my fiance’s mom, and I think she did as well, but sometimes, people just don’t mesh, even if they will technically be family for the rest of our lives.

I would feel very uncomfortable if my Future Mother-In-Law was pretty much name calling my own mother. In fact, my Mother-In-Law has done this passive aggressively, and it is very difficult not to flip my lid, but I know deep down my mom is ten times better (it’s the truth lol) and so I don’t pay attention, although at the time I am BROILING inside.

I would sulk about it a little longer and than move on. Give your mom a hug when you can.

Post # 5
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10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

After the wedding is over, does it really matter if they get along? If they live in different cities, they really have no reason to interact. I’d let them figure this out. Weddings are hard enough without you being in the middle of childish squabbles!

Post # 6
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2414 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hmm…my mother and MOH’s are planning my bridal shower and I find nothing wrong with it – especially since my mother will be paying for the event and taking that off my BM’s plate. I think the idea of two different showers is a good one…

…I guess perhaps I would call my Future Mother-In-Law and discuss with her in person…or discuss with your mother if she is willing to do one large shower…

Post # 7
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2863 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Well technically your Mother shouldn’t be throwing you a shower, but in the same breath neither should your Mother-In-Law. I would do nothing- they are both adults and can solve their own disputes. Fiance needs to tell his Mom that he doesn’t want to hear about it and if she has a problem call your Mom not him. 

Post # 10
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5778 posts
Bee Keeper

They’ll work it out, or they won’t, but I wouldn’t worry about it either. They are 2 grown adults and your Future Mother-In-Law shouldn’t be trying to start something and getting you both in the middle.

How far apart do they live from each other anyway? Sometimes it does make sense to hold one large shower, and other times it works out better to split them. As a guest, I’d be much happier going to a 2-3 hour one than one that drags on for half the day.

I can probably guess that your Mom will take the high road so as to not rock the boat, so I’m sure it will all be OK. I wouldn’t be hurt by any of it. It will be fine.

Post # 12
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5778 posts
Bee Keeper

I think then that it’s smart to have 2 different ones. I went to one last week that was only 40 minutes away, and after sitting there from 1-4 and driving home in traffic, the whole day was shot.

Tell your Fiance to tell his Mom to have her own as it just makes more sense.

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