Post # 17
Well, no one will be mistaking her for the bride, right? She’s a generation older. I wouldn’t sweat it – I’ve seen guests wear pure white dresses to weddings this summer. The color of the dress does not a bride make.
Post # 18
I think she’s going to look foolish and you’re right to be bothered by it. That said, I agree with everyone’s advice to let it go in exchange for avoiding a lifetime of strife and grief between you and Mother-In-Law.
I’m having a smilar issue with my Future Mother-In-Law and I decided I have enough to worry about to be concerned with what she’s wearing….
Post # 19
My sister’s Mother-In-Law wore ‘cream’ to her wedding. You can see a picture here, and also I recommend reading the comments on the post. Someone brought up the color of her MIL’s dress and my sisters response is great.
Post # 20
i didn’t even notice one of my guests showed up in a lacey white dress for my wedding until someone pointed it out in my pictures. Quite frankly it didn’t bother me at all because everyone was there to celebrate OUR marriage. But if it does bother you that much, have your Fiance say something. I think it would come out less awkward if he did it rather than you.
Post # 21
just give her a huge dark corsage…hehe, don’t know why that cracks me up
Post # 22
Shh..whispering because I’m afraid a relative is going to find out my secret..
I went with my fmil to find the dress that she would wear to our wedding she insisted on purchasing it at a bridal salon. She kept commenting on how hot it was going to be in july and "a colored dress is going to just intensify the heat" I assumed I knew where this was going when watching her peruse cream colored dresses. So I said.."your son was mentioning to me how purple is his favorite color and how much he would love to see you in that color." Once I said that, all notions about a cream colored dress were dismissed. He couldn’t have cared less about what color she wore, and his favorite color IS purple.. but it sure made things easier for me.
Post # 23
July2008Bride thats a good one!
I too am sick of MOGs wearing cream color dresses. They KNOW that traditionally brides only wear white and any other color that comes close to it is a no. Sure for some people its not a big deal but those MOGs want the attention even if its bad attention. I would never allow my Mother-In-Law to wear white. I would be so mad at her and so would my fiance.
Post # 24
um..yeah, that whole thing about the color "Mother-in-law-cream", I’m not buying it. It’s tacky. Good Luck with your sticky situation.
Post # 25
my first response was that i’d be just as furious and angry if my Future Mother-In-Law pulled a stunt like that. But then as I read some of these answers to your question, I realized that my anger about that probably stems to the deeper fear that my Fiance will always put his family/mother before me. I dont know if you relate to that at all, but i really agree with the poster who said that it’s more important to realize that your relationship with your Future Mother-In-Law is more important than what she wears to your wedding….I agree that it’s totally rude of her to do this. But think about what you’ll remember from the day… do you want to remember being so upset about what she was wearing? If you can let go of this, perhaps it wont even be an issue.
Post # 26
I attended a wedding where the MOB wore (no lie) an ivory, floor-length, beaded gown. The beading was gold and silver, but still … it could have been a wedding dress. And yes, many people commented on it, and not in a good way.
I’d echo the suggestion to let this one go … it’s not worth a knock-down drag-out fight with your Future Mother-In-Law, especially since she’s only embarassing herself. But if you like your Future Mother-In-Law, even a little bit, having her son drop a gentle hint that perhaps this is not the most appropriate dress to wear might be the kindest thing to do. Your Future Mother-In-Law may like the idea of all the attention being on her, but she’s not going to get it, and I doubt she wants the guests to be talking about how ridiculous she looked in her pseudo-bridal wear. (Maybe your Fiance could suggest buying a nice jacket of some kind in your wedding colors to wear over it?)