Post # 1
So, with our wedding quickly approaching I am trying to wrap up gifts for my bridesmaid (future sister in law) & maid of honor (close friend). I’m having a hard time with the fact that you are technically supposed to get your Maid/Matron of Honor something “extra”. My Maid/Matron of Honor has flat out asked me three times if she is getting a special gift since she is the Maid/Matron of Honor — I found this to be a little bit of an awkward question, because honestly my bridesmaid has helped just as much as my Maid/Matron of Honor — if not MORE. They hosted and split the cost of my bridal shower & bachelorette party 50/50. If I could go back in time, I would have one of them be my maid of honor, and the other the matron of honor — I didn’t realize you could have two when I first asked them/started planning!
Should I just ignore the fact that my Maid/Matron of Honor expects an extra gift, and get each of them something special in addition to their small gifts?? My Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t really like my Bridesmaid or Best Man, so I can see her being a little upset if I do, but I don’t want my BM’s support and helpfulness to go unnoticed!
Maybe I’m over thinking it, but with one month to go I’m over thinking EVERYTHING lately 😉
Post # 3
i wouldnt get anything for anyone who asked if they get more.. thats rude. bridal party gifts should not be expected. its a gift not a payment.
Post # 4
i agree, don’t give her anything extra! she should be happy that she gets a gift at all! she didn’t help any more than your other Bridesmaid or Best Man did!
Post # 5
Perhaps make them different, but one not more than the bm? But yes, I totally agree that’s rude.
Post # 6
Give them what you want to give them based on what you feel is right, and the heck with what your Maid/Matron of Honor or anyone else says. If she is going to be petty and compare her gift to your BM’s, that is her problem. Just smile. What is she gonna do? Huff and puff and blow your house down? Do what you want for your wedding.
Post # 7
give her a framed photo of yourself – that should shut her up 🙂
Post # 8
I also think that is kind of rude. Some weddings the bride gives the BM jewelry which is to be used for the wedding as the only present.
Post # 9
Thank you for the replies..Glad I’m not the only one that was put off by her asking!! I think I’ll just do what I want without worrying and buy my Bridesmaid or Best Man something personal too.
@eloping: teehee that was just hilarious. thanks for the laugh 😉