(Closed) MOH +1

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Everyone in the bridal party should have the option of bringing a date, no matter who it is. It’s your wedding, not your grandma’s. If she is not happy with your cousin’s decisions, she should take that up with her privately and separately. Invite your cousin’s girlfriend and kindly ask your grandma to discuss private family issues at another time out of respect for you and your soon to be husband.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Wow! That’s a touchy situation. I can tell you that my Maid/Matron of Honor is also a lesbian and has only been dating her gf for a couple of months. My family is not okay with it but they will just have to deal with it. No one should “act a fool” at your wedding. They need to take a step back and realize that it’s not about them or their issues which eachother. It’s about celebrating your love and commitment.

I honestly would invite her partner. All of rest of my bridal/groomsmen party were married or in long term relationships except for the Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man… so I threw them a date… But everyone else was out of luck if they didn’t have a serious partner!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

As far as I know, you are suppose to ALWAYS give your bridal party plus ones, They are there for you and you should make them as comfortable as possible. I say that you should. And let family know, you gave her a plus one it was her choice who to bring. Then it is her problem if there is drama you know?

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Mrs. Fireworks: agreed!

Your cousin is figuring things out right now. Dont be quick to judge her choice (or let others- grandma). Technically, she falls in your category of serious relationships, so let her bring her gf. Besides, at a hard time in life, family should stand by each other. Don’t let your cousin (and MOH!) feel like they are being isolated for their personal life (even though it would be grandma’s influence, it seems like you might get the reprocussions). Besides, its YOUR wedding, not grandma’s. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree that the wedding party is afforded a plus 1 by default. And no offense to your grandma, but she’ll have to have a problem with it on her own time. My Man of Honor will be bringing a fella and it will cause some scoffing. But those people can leave.

Our night, these nights are about love. Put the shit aside for another day gam gam

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Pikachu42: yeah, June is pretty far away. And if she has a history of “bouncing” like you say, then there’s a good chance that it won’t even be an issue.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Pikachu42: Sexual preferences aside, it is downright frustrating to have someone close to you continue to put themselves in relationships that are unstable. She is lucky to have someone who supports her!!I understand you don’t want to stir the pot. BUT in this case it will be easier to handle since you have other guests. They will act as a buffer between your cousin and grandma (hopefully). Besides, unlike usual family gatherings, a wedding is totally focused on YOU and your Fiance. Invite the gf, sit your cousin and gf FAR from your grandma, and make sure the gf isn’t in any family photos (aka permanant ones). 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

She is a part of a social unit and must be invited with her partner.

If Granny hints/infers/mentions anything about MOHs relationship and your wedding, tell her in no uncertain terms that your wedding is not the time to air her dirty laundry and that you are asking for her cooperation in wrangling other family members.

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