Post # 1
my lovely Maid/Matron of Honor is pregs! Yay! I am thrilled for her as shes been trying for awhile. My one concern is- how do we order her dress? We both want to order asap just to insure that she can get it, as the other BMs have theirs ordered already.
My Maid/Matron of Honor wants me to take her measurements now (at barely a few weeks pregs) because she says she is determined to be back to her original size with in 12 weeks… I find this… Ambitious? I can just see where this will not work out and we’ll be in a bind with no dress and too late to order another.
She is curvy, big breasted and thankfully the dresses really only are fitted at the bewbs. I picked that because it’s comfy and flattering. I think we should add at least 3 inches and get it tailored closer to the date. Because what are the odds that a curvy breastfeeding moms boobs will be the same size as pre bebe? Does anyone have advice or experience with this? I know for a fact her bust fluctuates with her weight from like Dirty Delete to D etc.
Shes antsy to get the dress checked off her to do list… But I always always advise people against “aspirational sizing”- is 12 weeks to pre baby body realistic? Or should I insist on some wiggle room that could always be tailored down. Money is not an issue- she has plenty and I would happily pay for whatever she needed if that was an issue.
Post # 2
It’s so hard to say because every woman and every pregnancy are so different. I’m 6 weeks post partum and about 8 pounds from my pre baby weight. I was an A cup before and am now a B while breastfeeding. I have no idea where my weight will be in another six weeks. 12 weeks does seem a little ambitious to be back to your old size, but she may be one of the lucky one!
Post # 3
MrsBuesleBee: this is tricky because you don’t want to make it seem like you don’t have faith in her with her body goals post baby. I would definitely go bigger and than tailor it down if need be. Better to be safe than sorry. I would just explain that if for some raeson she isn’t comfortable by the time the wedding rolls around you wouldn’t want her to have to wear a dress she doesn’t like and have no other options. At least leaving some extra room gives her options. Women handle pregnancy differently and some bounce back within a couple months for others it takes a bit longer. that’s not really something that can be predicted and beause of that she should plan with some flexibility. leaving extra room will giveher that flexibility.
Post # 4
MrsBuesleBee: I would definitely go bigger and tailor down.
Post # 5
MrsBuesleBee: She might want to at least go up a size, not because I don’t think she’ll be back and her pre-baby body but at 12 weeks, if she chooses, she’ll probably still be breast feeding so wouldn’t they be a little larger?
Post # 6
Karie: she might be but im just nervous to bank on that!
I agree, I think I’ll just say we should round up and get it tailored for a perfect fit. It is so much easier cheaper to take something in then let it out! I hope she doesn’t take offense, shes pretty reasonable usually but weight things are always touchy!
Post # 7
MrsBuesleBee: Definitely just have her order a size up. This is not saying that you don’t believe she has what it takes to drop the weight, but does she really want to be stressed to fit in a dress mere weeks after giving birth? Take it from someone who has opttimistically purchased a dress a size (or two) below my current weight with the goal of dropping the weight: Always order a size up if you are going to be gaining any weight, no matter how far in advance. The struggle to drop the last ten pounds three weeks before a wedding is real and horrifying. I couldn’t imagine trying to do so with a baby.
Post # 8
MrsBuesleBee: I’m guessing she would definitely need a size or two up, in the bust. I was a D cup and the day after having my first C/Section, I woke up and swore someone had glued cantaloupes, to my chest.
Post # 9
MrsMeowton: yes this is my concern- shell be attempting to breast feed so I don’t want her conflicted with this crazy self imposed weight loss goal simultaneously.
PABride: thank you- this is what I predict too! It’s her first baby so she doesn’t know how it’ll go!
Post # 10
MrsBuesleBee: I wouldn’t treat it as a weight issue, but more a “your body changes with pregnancy and breastfeeding” issue. A good friend of mine looks like she never had a baby 2.5 months later, but the only thing that looks different about her pre-pregnancy is her chest! I think for that particular part of your body, it’s just not something you can control, especially when breastfeeding. I’d go a size or two up. Or wait a bit – if she’s barely pregnant and will be 12 weeks postpartum at the wedding, you’re almost a year out! It’s definitely early to order the dress.
Post # 11
I lost all my baby weight by my 6 week checkup (have since gained it back. Ugh!) but I was not my pre-pregnancy size. I agree that you should size up. My boobs were bigger from breastfeeding and my stomach was still somewhat extended.. I guess my uterus didn’t go back to normal by that time? So even though I weighed the same, nothing fit right.
Post # 12
MrsBuesleBee: One of my friends went from a B to a Dirty Delete while breastfeeding her son at her pre-baby weight. When she was done breastfeeding, she settled into a full C cup, at 5 lbs under her pre-baby weight.
Your Maid/Matron of Honor can totally lose the weight, but it doesn’t mean that she’s going to lose it from everywhere. I’m sure the two of you will figure it out!
Post # 13
Easier to take a dress in, so I would order bigger just because. I lost a fair amount of the baby weight, but my boobs stayed pretty big while breastfeeding.
Post # 14
MrsBuesleBee: Have her order a dress with an empire waist– something that will be flattering and an easy fit no matter her size. Make sure the bust is big enough- and she should be able to find a tailor to do her dress closer to the wedding. I had a pregnant Maid/Matron of Honor, and her dress was done the week before the wedding to make sure it was a good fit.
Post # 15
goblueca: yes I was thinking that but she’s antsy to do it now and I’m nervous they’ll discontinue the print or something! It’s an Amsale dress… It’ll likely still be available to order in a few months… I hope!
bitsybee: megz06: thanks for your experiences and opinions!
MrsEME: yes it is empire waisted thankfully. I like the look of them and you can actually eat dinner and not wear spanx and such! Win/win