Post # 1
My best friend of 20 years is having her 25th birthday on Monday. She lives 6 hours from me, so I can’t just drive over there. I will actually be seeing her this weekend because we’re meeting halfway to go to a concert together, but I feel so bad because this is a big birthday, and I think her Boyfriend or Best Friend (they’ve been dating 9 months now) doesn’t know or doesn’t realize it.
SO, my mom told me to just send him a facebook message gently reminding him in case he forgot. I’m going to do that ASAP. (I’ve only talked to her Boyfriend or Best Friend a few times, so we really don’t know each other that well.)
I’d like to make her something, but I’m having a hard time coming up with stuff. Of course I can bake something, and I probably will, but does anyone have any other ideas? I want to do something special for her because she means a lot to me, and if her Boyfriend or Best Friend doesn’t do anything, it’ll make me feel terrible for her, and I know she’ll be sad because she texted me and said “I don’t even think he knows it’s my birthday.”
Anyone have any last minute things I can make that are meaningful? I already bought her presents (a cookbook she will love and a book called Eat Your Peas Faithfully – ironically about how I’ll always be there for her).
Help!! (sorry my post is long)
Post # 3
Anything involving pictures of you two is always good, ie a scrapbook you’ve made.
Other than that, if you don’t want to directly remind him, you could always say something like “I decided to make Maid/Matron of Honor a ______ for her birthday coming up on the _____, and was wondering if you could send me a picture of you two…” etc.
Post # 4
I would suggest something to her Boyfriend or Best Friend along the lines “Not sure if you know or not, but Friends 25th is Monday and I know shes been wanting to go to dinner at —-. Just thought you might want to know some insider information :)” or something to that effect so he gets the idea.
Baking something is always nice. Maybe be a little cheasy, but cute and buy two bottles of wine and give it to her with a note telling her she is only allowed to drink it with you on the phone and while you chat one day you will open your wine so you can drink it together. Or maybe over skype?
Post # 5
I think however you say something to him, you should not imply that you think he forgot / doesn’t know. That’s kind of mean and hurtful, IMO, especially since you don’t know him well.
I think something like MissHelen suggested – getting him to help you with something for your gift to your friend – is best. Let’s him know its her birthday soon if he didn’t know / forgot while not hurting his feelings if he already knows and has something planned.
Post # 6
@MissHelen: I’ve never scrapbooked in my life. lol I can definitely find a picture of us though. Thanks for the idea!
@lefeymw: I love your wine idea!! I’m actually giving her some wine this weekend when I see her. That’s a great idea! I’ll attach a not or something to it.
@Mrs.KMM: Good points! Yeah, I definitely don’t want to make him feel bad or anything like that. I just sent the message, so hopefully it didn’t come across that way. I wrote some other stuff in there too, so it wasn’t just about her birthday. I tried to do it smoothly. lol He’s in med school and stays really busy, so it may have just slipped his mind…or maybe it hasn’t.