(Closed) MOH and Best Man speech help

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

You’ll have to use your judgement since you know the bride and groom, but I would not want this done at my wedding. I would want sweet words from my Maid/Matron of Honor, and maybe a funny but appropriate story about me and my fiancé, but I would not appreciate the Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man using my reception as a time for them to practice their stand up comedy.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

I can only imagine how long this amateur comedy routine would take. 😴 Definitely would not want this at my wedding and don’t care to sit through it as a guest at anyone elses wedding. Keep it short and sweet! But if you must do this please discuss it with the bride and groom first. I had to give my MOH/sister a three minute toast max or she’d be droning on forever. I love her but no.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I think a funny line here and there is ok, but I dont’ think I (personally) would enjoy a comedy routine during my reception.  My husband’s best man did a really good job with this.  He told a cute/touching story about my husband’s summary of our first date, told a funny story about how he met my husband and then brought up a longstanding joke between the two of them.  So even though there were some funny moments, it wasn’t a laugh reel.

A compromise might be for you to end your speech with a piece of silly advice for the newlyweds, for him to pick his speech up with something similar and then move into the other stuff.  

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Toasts at a wedding should really be kept short (2-3 minutes max!) will this comdey routine and the individual parts of your speech be under 6 minutes combined?

My MOH’s speech at my wedding was perfect and made pretty much everyone cry. It was short and sweet and basically just said that she loves me and is so happy that I’m happy. That’s all I wanted to hear – not cheesy jokes.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Wow a lot of killjoys here. I absolutely hate “sweet” speeches. They are so fake and annoying and just gross to listen to. I think your idea sounds fantastic!

I would use things specific to the bride and groom though. For example we had friends who always posted on Facebook to each other l”I love you” “I love you more” “can’t wait to get home from work and kiss you” etc, so their best mans speech mentioned that he could teach them how to do private messages on Facebook. Everyone laughed.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

jackiebee :  Variety is the spice of life. Maybe its good for OP to hear things from a guest perspective, might give her something to think about. But personally I don’t care for any drawn out speeches in general. Funny, sweet, doesn’t matter. Your example makes sense bc majority of the crowd could relate to the joke. Speeches I’ve heard attempting to be funny are usually littered with insider jokes or stories that no one else gets bc duh its an insider thing. Different strokes for different folks. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

So if you think the couple will appreciate this approach…

Stay away from anything too blue. No mentioning of anything intimate because it’s likely there’ll be older relatives in the room. Nobody wants ‘advice’ on how to pleasure their spouse or what animal sound they make whilst having sex with their grandma is in the room. This also covers the time that the bride got so drunk she vomited down a police officer or when the groom ended up tied naked to the lamppost. Think of your audience, the old and the young. Don’t try to embarrass the couple.

Stay away from exes. No fake forgetting the name – “Dan and Amy are great together. Dan and Tracey, ooops”. Even if you might make jokes about exes while you’re hanging out together, the wedding isn’t a place to bring them up. Even a “I’ve never seen Dan as happy as he is with Tracey, even the happiness Amy brought to him doesn’t compare” is a no-go. Just leave it at you’ve never seen them so happy.

Stay away from cliches. They’re old, they’re tired and like something from a crap sixties sitcom. The best man at our wedding used the “there’s three types of rings in a marriage, the engagement ring, the wedding ring and the suffering”. It went down like a lead balloon. Also cliches likely won’t work for the couple so don’t sprout them just because it’s a “funny” joke about marriage. It won’t be funny.

Don’t make it too specific about the relationship between the four of you. There’s other people who want to identify with the bride and groom in your stories, so find things that represent their personalities that everyone in the room will recognise. 

So what you should put in should be things personal to them. Things that’s aren’t offensive. Think about who they are and what their individual quirks are. It’s hard to give advice not knowing these people. The funny advice to me and my husband would be completely different to the funny advice that my friend and husband would get.

With everything, keep in mind who will be in the room. It’s not just you four at a bar. Keep in mind that it’s also their wedding day so you might need to dial back on the banter.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Avoid inside jokes. They might be funny for you and thencouple, but it’s super boring for the rest of the guests and makes them feel left out. 

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