(Closed) MOH and BM both made baby announcements at my shower today

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

AwW. hugs! I would be bummed too, but perhaps it was a good timetoo tell everyone at once? Still sucks tho.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t blame you for being dissapointed. Your shower was definitely not the appropriate time for them to announce their news. Are these girls related and maybe they wanted to announce while their family was all in the same place? If that’s the case I guess I can understand their logic though it still doesn’t make it the time or place for them to make their announcements. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Your not out of line to be bummed.  That was rude of them. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Sorry you had a disappointing shower.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Aww. I’m sorry that you are feeling this way. Although I’m sure that neither of your dear friends meant in any way to slight you by using your shower as the perfect opportunity to break their happy news all at once to some important people in their own lives, I personally think that each of them should have at least asked your permission before doing this.  Even though I doubt that you would have told either of them “no,” it still would have been a very thoughtful and courteous action on their parts had either of them thought to do this.

You definitely do not sound to me like someone who thinks the world revolves around herself.  Instead, I think that you just would have preferred that the few hours today that were scheduled to be about you and your Fiance and your future together would have focused more on your upcoming marriage than on the pending arrival of your bridal attendants’ children.

I feel like Miss Manners in what I am about to say, but, perhaps you can take solace in the fact that at least these ladies chose to make their announcements at your wedding shower — rather than at your wedding. 🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m  usually the first person to be aggravated with brides who think the world revolves around their wedding.

However, I think it was rude of them to make their announcements at your shower. This was about you, not them.  I understand that Bridesmaid or Best Man might not wanted to share her news before now, but she could have told you privately first. I wouldn’t worry about her dress. Unless it is super form fitting, it will probably just need extra alterations.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

i would be upset 2. 🙁 I’m sorry that sucks they should have been more considerate 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Wow, I’d be hurt by this, too.  It seems like common sense that you wouldn’t make such big announcements at someone else’s bridal shower, where the attention should be on the bride.  You’re a better person than me for handling it so graciously!  

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

That was definitely not their best move. I’m sorry you’re upset. I probably would be too.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

If you ever want to talk, you can PM me.  I am going through almost the same thing.

FI’s cousin is a Bridesmaid or Best Man.  She started TTC in February, so when she got her positive HPT last Sunday, I was already expecting it.  Actually, I am way more excited for her than I thought I’d be.  I’m probably more excited than she is, to be honest.  My only concern is that I don’t think she’s gonna be able to fit in her dress in July.  It was already really tight in the bust area, and I am pretty sure her boobs are going to swell before then.  So, we’ll be having a dress crisis for sure!

Then, came the real whammy of an announcement.  FBIL’s girlfriend of THREE MONTHS is pregnant AND they’re getting married immediately.  Like, before our wedding immediately.

So, the past few days I’ve been feeling really down.  Sort of like our wedding is gonna take the back burner with the Future In-Laws.  I am thankful, though, that no one made their announcements at our shower!!!

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

That’s too bad. Sorry!

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m sure they didn’t mean to hurt your feelings but I agree that was kind of crappy timing.  I’m sorry you felt left out. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

I’m sure they had good intentions, but I know I would also be very upset and hurt. It wasn’t the time or place for their announcements.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Awww, I’m sorry. I would be a bit disappointed as well. At my bach party, we will also be celebrating one of my friend’s bday so I know how you feel. My group is only doing this as we only manage to get together during super special events like weddings bc everyone lives all over the country. I think your Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor were so excited they wanted to share with a large number of friends and family at one time. They probably weren’t even realizing they were imposing on your shower. 

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