Post # 1
I need a little help.
My Maid/Matron of Honor is great, she’s been so helpful and just overall awesome. She’s never been a Maid/Matron of Honor and been a bridesmaid one time when she was 14 so I’m sure she really doesn’t know much about this kind of stuff, but overall she’s been awesome.
Lately she keeps telling me she wants to start planning my bridal shower and wants to get together to do it. I keep telling her to set it up with my mom and have given her mom’s number multiple times. It’s great she wants to go over it with me and all, but I just don’t have time and it’s not really my job, right? I’ve got enough to do with planning the whole wedding plus starting a new job…There are just not enough hours in the day. Plus, I’d feel really odd planning my own shower, like planning a baby shower for yourself. But like I said, she’s been amazing and I love her but how do I tell her (again) to get in touch with my mom about this?
Post # 3
I think that’s kind of sweet! She wants to make sure you like it!
(And I don’t know about everyone else, but the host of my baby shower involved me in every decision from the invites to the desserts!)
Post # 4
I involved the bride I was Maid/Matron of Honor for in the bridal shower planning, too. She wanted to be a part of it. Her sisters then took over and I mostly communicated with them
There are 2 options – either she really uncomfortable talking to your mom and/or making any final decisions and so you should help her out OR you tell her, “I really wanted to be surprised about this. Do you mind just taking the reins and talking to my mom about it and surprising me? I feel silly asking for it, but it’s what I really want.” She can’t say no to that.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Tell her what you just told us- that you appreciate her interest, but you have a lot on your plate right now and cannot mentally take on anything else. Then ask her if it would be okay for your Mom to call her and chat about the shower. I’m thinking maybe she feels weird calling your Mom, and it may be easier if your Mom contacted her.
Post # 6
@Lizzy723: Sounds like she just wants your approval/thoughts. She’s obviously important to you and trying to do something really nice for you – take an hour and have coffee with her.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
@Lizzy723: Why not meet with both her and your mom? Maybe she doesn’t feel comfortable with your mom? At least she cares to make sure that it will be somethingyou will enjoy 🙂
Post # 8
As a Maid/Matron of Honor & future bride, I completely see where the Maid/Matron of Honor is coming from. She wants to make sure that you approve of it and also probably is not sure where to start. If you really do not have time for her, have your mom call her or try to contact her. I really think you should take at least an hour sometime to meet with her, since she is doing all this for you.
Post # 9
I know, and I am sitting down with her tomorrow. I don’t see why she’d be uncomfortable with my mom, they’ve talked about other wedding stuff together. I guess I just feel weird planning a party for myself.
Post # 10
@Lizzy723: I would defiantely mention that at your sit down then. Just say I know this might sound weird but I feel really strongly about not being involved in the shower planning. Besides it will make it make it more iof a suprise for me if I don’t know the details. But if you need to run some vague things by me please do (like the date, time, any specific dislikes, guest list etc).
I am sure she is just excited to have something that she can work on with her best friend and not her best friends mum. But if you explain it to her I am sure, given that she is your friend, she will understand.