(Closed) MOH and Bridal Shower

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think that’s kind of sweet! She wants to make sure you like it!

(And I don’t know about everyone else, but the host of my baby shower involved me in every decision from the invites to the desserts!)

Post # 4
6741 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I involved the bride I was Maid/Matron of Honor for in the bridal shower planning, too. She wanted to be a part of it. Her sisters then took over and I mostly communicated with them

There are 2 options – either she really uncomfortable talking to your mom and/or making any final decisions and so you should help her out OR you tell her, “I really wanted to be surprised about this. Do you mind just taking the reins and talking to my mom about it and surprising me? I feel silly asking for it, but it’s what I really want.” She can’t say no to that.

Post # 5
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Tell her what you just told us- that you appreciate her interest, but you have a lot on your plate right now and cannot mentally take on anything else. Then ask her if it would be okay for your Mom to call her and chat about the shower. I’m thinking maybe she feels weird calling your Mom, and it may be easier if your Mom contacted her.

Post # 6
564 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@Lizzy723:  Sounds like she just wants your approval/thoughts. She’s obviously important to you and trying to do something really nice for you – take an hour and have coffee with her.

Post # 7
1671 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

@Lizzy723:  Why not meet with both her and your mom? Maybe she doesn’t feel comfortable with your mom? At least she cares to make sure that it will be somethingyou will enjoy 🙂

Post # 8
19 posts
  • Wedding: October 2014

As a Maid/Matron of Honor & future bride, I completely see where the Maid/Matron of Honor is coming from. She wants to make sure that you approve of it and also probably is not sure where to start. If you really do not have time for her, have your mom call her or try to contact her. I really think you should take at least an hour sometime to meet with her, since she is doing all this for you. 

Post # 10
8725 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@Lizzy723:  I would defiantely mention that at your sit down then. Just say I know this might sound weird but I feel really strongly about not being involved in the shower planning. Besides it will make it make it more iof a suprise for me if I don’t know the details. But if you need to run some vague things by me please do (like the date, time, any specific dislikes, guest list etc).

I am sure she is just excited to have something that she can work on with her best friend and not her best friends mum. But if you explain it to her I am sure, given that she is your friend, she will understand.


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