(Closed) MOH and her baby…shoukd i leave it be?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: what should i do?
    Tell her now? suggestions on how to do it : (5 votes)
    17 %
    wait to see if she grows out of it and address it later : (9 votes)
    30 %
    just leave it be : (16 votes)
    53 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2539 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    You could make a suggestion ” have you thought about leaving the princess’ at home so that you guys can enjoy the night?”

    just dont push….mention it once…see what she says and move on. if she doesnt enjoy her self than thats fine…as long as you do! Being a mommy is her first priority and sometimes is hard for us moms to turn off the mommy switch.

    Good luck!

    Post # 4
    Member
    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    If she wants her husband to watch the kids during the wedding, or she’d rather be there to attend to them, that’s really her choice. You’ve already invited her kids to be a part of the wedding, so you have to kind of just let her figure this out on her own. She’s the mom, she knows what she wants to do.

    Post # 6
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    486 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    It depends how close you are to her and how sensitive she is. Can you simply suggest that they find other arrangements? Otherwise, the issue is really about how she and her husband choose to raise their family and there’s nothing anyone can say. At that point I’d say make the best of whatever she chooses to do.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2401 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    If you invited them, then they get to come. Unless you offered to purchase a babysitter for the night for her, then I really dont see anything else you can do. Taking back an invitation for the babies could start some unwanted drama.

    Post # 7
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    2401 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Also, if the baby will be 1 1/2 in October (the date of your listed wedding), then the baby is only 8 months now. Babies develop so quickly and they are very clingy and tempermental at the earliest months. I think it would be super hard to predict their behavior so early in the baby’s life.

    Post # 10
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    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @sunnywoods: I wouldn’t be offended, but I probably wouldn’t take you up on it. When my daughter was that young no one but family watched her. But that could just be me.

    Post # 11
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    7490 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    It is kind of you to offer a babysitter, however some mothers (like me) don’t leave our kids with people other than fmaily members.  If it were me, I would rather you just make the suggestion that maybe I would have a better time having a free night and then let me figure it out for myself.  I would probably have my mom watch the kids.

    Post # 13
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    811 posts
    Busy bee

    I think it’s really nice that you’ve put so much thought into it. At the end of the day it’s her decision but I’d probably voice my concerns to her gently and see what she says – it’s not like you’re saying the baby can’t come because she might cry, you’re suggesting it so the mum and dad have a good night

    Post # 14
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    2183 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

    I had all sorts of kids at my wedding, and I loved them! They were all ages, 7 months and up. Honestly, if the mom is concerned, then it’s a concern. Otherwise, I would leave it be.

    Post # 15
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    128 posts
    Blushing bee

    I sort of have to agree that’s the mom’s job to figure out what to do with her baby since her other daughter is in the wedding. But I understand your concerns and think it’s sweet you want them to enjoy the night. I also think in 6 months babies can go through a LOT of changes and she may even grow out of it by then. And Dads I feel should definitely be able to take on this responsibility for a couple hours. I’d feel really bad saying something and assuming he couldn’t handle the responsibility himself.

    We are going to end up having so many kids and babies at our wedding like 30 so i’ve decided to probably just assign someone to a “babysitter” position during the night to just go around and play with the kids and make sure they are okay and to help out where needed if problems arrise. i’m not sure how else to go about it, everyone i know has kids these days!

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