- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2016
Lol is this real life?
Lol is this real life?
EDubbs: Yeahhhh, I agree with all the PPs…you are SO far out of line and I can’t believe that you don’t see this. Like…really? She arranged you a whole suite of indulgent events for your wedding (vegas bachelorette…hello) and then you ruin her proposal, tell her her relationship is worthless, issue her an ultimatum and then don’t even apologise (a text doesn’t equal an apology), expect your mom to clear up this situation YOU created, and you’re STILL feeling sorry for yourself?!
Seriously, get a grip, you messed up.
EDubbs: I’m a big sister and I understand some of your feelings here, kinda-
If your sister’s guy is a BAD person you have every right to speak up! You should stop the proposal. BUt you only said that you feel like the proposal is coming too soon- every relationship is different and you don’t get to choose when they get married.
“We will look back on this and the photos and be sad. you can’t get a wedding redo”– your sister can’t get a proposal redo either. So I guess now you’re even, huh?
I’m sorry, but I’m a big sister and my sister is dating a guy (and they went through a rough patch….like every other human) and I’d be ecstatic if her boyfriend proposed to her. …Heck even if it were the day before or right after my wedding!!!! I’m the one who teases them about doing so. It sounded like you were just upset because the engagement stole your thunder and they didn’t go by your timeline. No two couples are the same. Some people take weeks, some months and others years. It’s not up to you to put a timeline on someone else’s relationship. You’ve updated many times and not once have you mentioned that the boyfriend was a low life, verbally or mentally abusive or any other thing. The fact that the news left you “heartbroken” or that you are wanting her to “just get over” you ruining her surprise proposal says a lot. It doesn’t sound like it came from a good place. You don’t ever get a proposal back…you can’t undo the surprise of it. That’s completely ruined. At least you have the chance of your wedding going exactly as planned. Not exactly “an eye for an eye” is it? Anytime she thinks about her proposal, she’ll have terrible memories. She wasn’t “throwing it in your face”, she was letting you know how much energy and love she put into making your big day special and that you went and took away her chances of ever having that. Apologize and pray/cross your fingers…or whatever you believe in and hope she can forgive you. It may be days or years. It’s not your mom’s responsibility. It’s yours. Sounds like you care more about your wedding not having a Maid/Matron of Honor than losing a sister. So sad.
I can’t believe this thread is still open.
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What a mess, you guys! I’m closing this thread for review now. Thanks!
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