- Ms. Gertie
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2012
SO here I am 5 weeks from my wedding and I am so not into this. All along I wanted a MARRIAGE not a WEDDING. My fiance thought I would be sad if I didn’t have a wedding and encouraged me to plan one. – side note I was engaged many years ago and he left me 1 month and 5 days before the wedding. I am not now nor have I ever been bitter about it, he did me a favor – Planning that first event was AWFUL. My fiance then had strong ideas of what he wanted, including picking one of my BMs. My mother had even stronger ideas. The whole thing was doomed from the day I said yes.
Fast forward all these years and we are here 5 weeks to my wedding and I am back in hell. Many of the players have changed except one….the MOB obvi! She is still there with her snyde comments, her critical eye and her strong opinions. Now add to the mix my Maid/Matron of Honor. Let me say she has been AWESOME. Don’t know how I would have survived without her but…..she is a control FREAK. Since I JUST have a Maid/Matron of Honor I told her the color and to pick out her dress. SHE WON’T SHOW IT TO ME. WTF!!! Last I checked the is is MY wedding and as such I should know all the details, but nooooo she jokes about what it looks like and has colors I don’t want in it. She thinks she is being funny but its making me MAD! FYI since the planning of this day I have had to go on blood pressure medication…..
We don’t have a lot of money, we HAD to pay for my finace’s mother’s funeral about 18 months ago…that cost MORE than our wedding! That is a story for another day, LOL. Because of this we have had to make significant changes. We went form a sit down buffet to a cocktail reception. We will have 10 different hot passed apps. We will have an open bar of beer and wine and of course cake. My Maid/Matron of Honor is HORRIFIED about this. We aren’t doing a seating chart, the wedding is at 2pm – before dinner, after lunch – so really what is the problem. We are offering drinks too! She can’t believe we aren’t doing a seating chart – I hate those. I hate being seated with people I don’t know…..
My mom said she would help with the costs. I have paid for EVERYTHING except the caterer which isn’t a lot. She keeps saying it will all work out….how? You haven’t said you would do it…what am I supposed to think?????
As you can see I am over all of this! I wish we had eloped!