- 10 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
My Maid/Matron of Honor hasn’t been overly helpful during my entire engagement. I’m not allowed to mention the wedding EVER and if I ask her for help with anything she gets annoyed. (Even when I asked her to go dress shopping with me).
She recently asked me if I wanted a stagette. I said sure! Let’s go out for dinner somewhere and then go out dancing or to hear a band. She says, "Why don’t we all meet at my place and pre-drink here and then go out?" (She’s cheap and doesn’t want to pay for drinks at the bar) I don’t want to go to her messy apartment to drink. I wanted a relatively nice supper and then out for a good time. AND I don’t want any penis parafanalia either. And she was SHOCKED. She said, "I thought for sure you’d want all that stuff" and I said no way! I just want to have a fun night with girlfriends. (I don’t understand why people have all the penis stuff…I really don’t want any of it).
Part of me wants to say forget it, no bachelorette. It’s too much effort for my Maid/Matron of Honor. If I want one, I should just plan it myself. Everything with my Maid/Matron of Honor seems like a chore, and when I do get her to help me with the wedding I’m not allowed to talk about the wedding because it upsets her.
What would you guys do about it?