- 8 years ago
- Wedding: November 2010
Well, this is such a long story and I can’t go into it all. But here it goes. My Maid/Matron of Honor whom I have been friends with for 27 years, informed me through an email that she will no longer be in our wedding and that our friendship is over.
Apparently, this all started over a month ago at my bachelorette party in vegas. It was only four girls there. My Maid/Matron of Honor was supposed to have planned it, and according to the other girls it was poorly organized from the beginning. However, we got there on a friday and left on a sunday. On sat morning, my Maid/Matron of Honor went to withdraw money and it said insufficient funds. I did offer her to borrow money and she declined. She then got on phone w/ her husband and the two of them went back and forth for hours as there was supposably some prob w/ the bank. The other girls got very upset w/ her as they said it ruined my bachelorette where we were supposed to have a fun day in honor of me, and that the money should have been worked out before we even left as the trip had been planned for over a month. So this goes on for a while and my Maid/Matron of Honor and I go back up to our room. The other two girls follow later. I stayed by my Maid/Matron of Honor the entire trip as the other girls gave her silent treatment and walked ahead. I do agree she wasn’t treated nicely by the others however I felt very caught in the middle.
We had reservations that night for a nice dinner etc. Maid/Matron of Honor then said she was going to take a cab to Western Union. The other girl there didn’t offer her a ride. So I told my Maid/Matron of Honor on two seperate occasions I was going w/ her, both times she said no, it’s fine i am going by myself don’t worry. So, I stayed behind and got ready for our dinner. She took a cab which she said was 30.00 and met us at the dinner.
Long story short, we had talked about vegas several times since vegas and she never ONCE indicated she was mad at me about anything whatsoever. I apologized for my friends behavior over and over.
As the next month went on and up to my shower(which was last weekend) apparently Maid/Matron of Honor from that point refused to communicate w/ other girls and my own mother to plan shower, they couldn’t get callbacks, etc and Maid/Matron of Honor apparently backed out on several things she was supposed to do for the shower. This was due to the fact that Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t want to “deal” w/ these girls anymore. The wrong address was also put on my shower invitations that Maid/Matron of Honor made??? It was very strange. Anyway, at my shower I could tell my Maid/Matron of Honor was acting weird towards me so after a few days I tried getting a hold of her and she wouldn’t call me back, text, etc. So i sent her an email thurs night saying i was very worried and I feel like she was mad but didn’t know what i had done. I get an email fri morning (very long) explaining that back in vegas she was confused by my behavior, that i didn’t offer money fast enough or to go in the cab fast enough and she felt that it wasn’t a sincere offer. She then said the icing on the cake was that she had just found out I was not using her husband as a realtor to short sale my house????? She said the rudest things in her email, that she was done w/ this, nothing i say will matter, she can’t imagine toasting me, stANDING next to me, etc.
Needless to say, I have been RACKING my brain as to what I have done to deserve this. I can’t believe this has happened, she won’t even talk to me and said she is done w/ our friendship everything!!! All my family, friends are very upset and say I have done nothing to deserve this. I feel the same but then start thinking maybe I didn’t offer money fast enough, maybe I should’ve went w/. her husband to sell and told her etc..???? I would never have done this to her or anyone. Here I am 3 weeks before w/ things i can’t change, no mOH etc. It is a mess. We also paid for over half of her dress and she won’t respond so we can try and get it back. I know this is SO long, but i’m a complete mess and any advice would be great. Do i deserve this? This whole thing has been nothing but problems, and I don’t understand why everything has turned out this way. All my friends who are supportive have been great, as well as my family. I am just very sad as I feel like I am a great friend to people and can’t make sense of it. Sorry this is so long.