- 6 years ago
I don’t even know where to start.
I have two bridesmaids that I’ve been friends with since high school (over a decade). Maid/Matron of Honor started off fine and suddenly started getting very sensitive (more on this later).
I took my two bridesmaids to pick out their dresses and they picked one out and agreed the price was fine. So far they have not bought them…ok, nbd. The main problem though was that I was having a really hard time to get my Maid/Matron of Honor to talk to me about the wedding. For example, one night I drove all the way to hang out with her at a bar close to her place (an hour away from me), and when I got there she barely gave me any attention, she was just talking to some guys she knew and sort of blew me off. I got upset that I had driven all the way there, so we started having an argument and she started yelling at me. I decided it was time to go so I left (after repeatedly asking her to stop yelling).
For the next 3 or 4 days there was a lot of drama through texting and she started saying stuff (all through text) like maybe it would be a better idea if she wasn’t in my wedding, etc, also asking for her wedding stuff back (things she had given me a few monts before). I’m not innocent here, I probably rubbed her the wrong way too, but she really made me mad and said hurtful things.
OK, we gave ourselves sometime to cool off, and after about a month or so we started talking again. I asked her if she was still ok being my Maid/Matron of Honor and going through the few responsibilities I was expecting (buying her dress, helping plan bacholerette party, which I would pay for, and maybe help with bridal shower).
I specifically asked for no drama, and was very clear that I just wanted this to be a fun and happy time. She said she was fine with it and we then started making some plans for the bachelorette party. It’s important note here that all of this was done through phone, we never actually met in person since the time at the bar (despite a few attempts from me).
So here is the last part. At least twice now both bridesmaids have said that they were buying the dress by a certain date and then didn’t. Both are complaining about money problems. Yesterday my Maid/Matron of Honor text me saying that she had missed an appointment to buy her dress, so after a few text messages she thought my “text tone” was rude (mind you I’ve been trying to call her because I’m tired of texting) and TEXTED me that she was going to step down from being my Maid/Matron of Honor because she can’t live up to my expectations. What do I do? I’ve already given her one extra chance and she is letting me down again. I’m afraid I’m going to let her be my Maid/Matron of Honor and that she is going to do this to me again. Should I just accept her “resignation”? I feel that this friend is going through something but not sharing with me. I also feel that I’m getting walked all over and that she is on some sort of a “power trip”. I’ve been in two of her weddings, Maid/Matron of Honor in one and this type of attitude never crossed my mind then. Any helpful input? Am I being a bridezilla? I’m very torn up and sad over this.