Post # 1
So I am incredibley bummed out right now, because my maid of honor, and long time best friend, just told me she will no longer be able to make my bridal shower because she and her new boyfriend accidently booked plane tickets for a trip over it. She said that she tried to exchange the tickets, bu they are non-refundable (even I know you can exchange non-refundable ticketts for a fee).
My aunt offered to throw me this bridal shower, and I told my Maid/Matron of Honor about it more than a month ago and she was in.
I just feel incredibley hurt and like I don’t mean that much to her if she could 1) forget the date of the bridal shower and 2) Chose to go with her new bf of only a few months over attending her best friend of 17 years one and only bridal shower.
Any suggestions on how I can feel better about this? What should I do?
Post # 3
Ughh I would be sooo mad but dont let it ruin your friendship
Post # 4
That sucks! Don’t think of it like she’s choosing the new bf over you, more that she can’t really get out of the plane tickets without having a huge monetary loss. I’m a bookkeeper, and we just had to change tickets for someone and it cost about $200, almost the price of the ticket, even though it was for a day later on the same airline. 🙁
She might just not be able to afford to exchange her and her BF’s tickets :(. It really does suck that she forgot, but maybe knowing how expensive it is might make you feel better.
Post # 5
My feeling on this would depend on the MOH’s past behavior.
Is she one who usually goes MIA when a new bf comes in to the picture? If so, I’d be upset but would chalk it up to her normal new bf disappearing act.
Is it possible her new bf booked the tickets without checking with her first? If that is the case, I’d be upset but I’d forgive her because she didn’t do the booking.
For all you know for them to rebook everything (tickets, hotel, etc) the change fees could make the trip doubly expensive.
If SHE booked the tickets and is usually very responsible with her obligations that would make me the most upset.
Post # 5
@WithGrace28: I don’t think it’s that she doesn’t care about you, but she just made a mistake. Try not to flip out about it. It’s a bridal shower and not your wedding.
I think brides often forget that other people have to live their lives and everyone is really only obligated to show up for the wedding. If you want to end a friendship over a missed party, then that’s on you. Exchanging your tickets may be easy, but it’s an extra cost.
Post # 6
I didn’t vote, because I do agree that it’s unacceptable, but unfortunately mistakes happen, and you can’t control what other people do. I’d be pretty hurt if a friend did that to me, and I’m sorry this happened to you.
Hopefully you can focus on all the people that love you that DO make it to the shower and have a great time.
Post # 7
I think it was incosiderate of her to book her plane ticket at the same time as your shower. Personally things like that do bother me, because she is the moh and she of all people should be there. I would not be pleased.
Post # 8
It could be an honest mistake. I would be upset but give her the benefit of the doubt. And make sure there are no ‘accidents” like this before the wedding and that you can rely on her.
My Maid/Matron of Honor also missed my shower because another close friend of hers was giving birth that day. She chose to be with her and I completely understood. The shower was still loads of fun, I bet yours will be as well.