Post # 1
Oh someone help me please!
I got engaged two years ago and in the excitement, I asked my High School best friend to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. I also asked my college best friend to be Maid/Matron of Honor but I never really told them that I had also asked another person. Now my wedding is coming up in two months and there is a bit of tension starting to build between the two of them about who does what. My bridesmaids don’t even know who my Maid/Matron of Honor were. My college best friend recently talked to me and said that she didn’t feel like a Maid/Matron of Honor and why wasn’t her name under “Bridesmaids” in the formal invitations *I had actually given her a higher role in the invitation but she obviously didn’t read it correctly… and now my high school best friend wants to step down from the role. I feel I rushed the decision but at the same time they both mean a lot to me and have been a part of my life in different and special ways.
How can I keep these two as my Maid/Matron of Honor and make them get along?? I don’t want to have akwardness on my wedding day.
Post # 3
All you can do is be honest with them and apologize for not telling them sooner.
I’m confused…How did you name them on the program?
Post # 4
On the Invitation it goes like this…
And I chose him from many to stand by my side while I wait for my bride… (Best Man)
And I chose her to bring tidings of my true love (College Friend)
And below that I had a list of groomsmen and bridesmaids which had my high school friend on top of the list…
Post # 5
@mohdilemma: Ah well you can understand why she’s upset. She thought she was Maid/Matron of Honor and she wasn’t included on an equal level as the other Maid/Matron of Honor (that she didn’t know even existed.) You owe her an apology.
Post # 6
@AlwaysSunny: This. It was kind of rude of you to do, asking her to be your Maid/Matron of Honor, not telling her that you had ANOTHER Maid/Matron of Honor, and then putting her in the program as “just” a bridesmaid.
Post # 7
@mohdilemma: Yeah, I agree with PP – I’m not sure if listing her first among the bridesmaids is really giving her a “higher role” when she thought she was your MOH!