(Closed) MOH dilemma… sister or best friend…..(long)

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Sister or best friend?
    Sister : (12 votes)
    23 %
    Best Friend : (20 votes)
    38 %
    Both : (20 votes)
    38 %
    Neither : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think your Maid/Matron of Honor should be the person closest to you, regardless of relation. Then again, I’m also an only child and I don’t understand the sibling dynamic. Just because she’s your sister doesn’t mean that she should automatically get the honor of Maid/Matron of Honor. It should really be the person who you can envision in the role and who you know will be there for you through thick and thin. By any chance is your sister getting married before you or is your best friend already married? There’s always the option of having a maid and matron of honor if you genuinely can’t decide. 

    Post # 5
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    4046 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Pick your friend. She knows what to do, is close to you, and has the time. That your sister is also getting married is perfect actually, you have a perfect reason for picking your friend ( sister is busy).

    Post # 6
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @firstlady878:  Very true. Go with your friend. Your sister can always be a bridesmaid. 

    Post # 7
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    5498 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    If you think your friend would do a better job, pick your friend! i’m sure your sister will understand since she has a lot going on.

     

    Post # 9
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    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think you should do whatever you think is best but I just wanted to give another perspective. I have two local best friends that are super creative and dependable and I knew actually wanted to be moh. I also have just one sister who lived in Australia for most of the time I was planning our wedding. We get along totally fine but she might not have been most equipped for the job but I chose her anyway. I just feel like a sister (unless you have a toxic relationship) is hat built in friend for life and you likely won’t drift apart because of he family ties and stuff.  So really my friends did the bulk of helping me and planning showers and that kind of thing and my sister did kind offloat back into the country a month prior to the wedding but i just couldn’t imagine having anyone but her.  And my friends were great about taking on tasks even though they were “just” bridesmaids. 

    Post # 10
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    24 posts
    Newbee

    Who is your sister’s maid of honor?  Did she ask you?

    Post # 13
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    4682 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Why not both?

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @firstlady878:  How old is your sister, and how irresponsible is she? I think you’ve answered your question, though. If you don’t think your sister will work well in a team of two, it’s probably not a good idea to give her the responsibility?

    Post # 16
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    3978 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Based on what you said I’d pick your best friend. If you’re really afraid it would cause a rift I’d explain that to your best friend and make them both MOH’s and see what your sis says.

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