- Miss Ox
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
So I need your opinion… to fill you in our latest bridal party shennanigan’s…
My fiance and I both choose our attendants- 3 and 3. It was perfect… his brother was going to be his best man, my sis my Maid/Matron of Honor… then his brother’s wife got pregnant- being due 2 weeks after our wedding… then so did my sister with basically the same due date… they are both out of state and will not be able to travel…
I was fine with just leaving it 2 and 2 as I know sometimes girls can be a little more prone to drama… he wanted a 3rd (WHO HE STILL HASNT ASKED 2 months later…) So I asked my 3rd… and she’s thrilled! I wanted her in the original party but wanted to limit to 3 and didnt want 2 or 3 being out of town (the newly added bridesmaid and my sister)…
Now who to be MOH? Do you need a MOH? I think it would be silly to have a matron of honor and a maid of honor if only having 3, dont you think? Do you need a Maid/Matron of Honor though? or how would you designate who says toast? signs marriage license? stands by you…
So to confuse things more, here are my now 3 bridesmaids:
A- in original 3. went to vet school together and hung out with mutual friends. weren’t as close until we graduated and moved to new town together with our SO’s and hang out a lot more regularly. was recently in her wedding as a Bridesmaid or Best Man and my Fiance was their best man
B- in original 3. have only known eachother for a few years, but she’s basically my long lost twin and we are inseparable
C- not in original 3. went to vet school together and were very close. after graduating we kept close, but lived in different states- limiting our contact. now she’s not local, however she is living close to our wedding local (destination wedding)
My gut tells me to choose C but am afraid of A and B to be hurt as they were in original 3.
A is local, helping me out a lot- as I did with her
B is anti-wedding drama and I think would be totally fine with whatever I choose- she always says its MY day. She didnt even have a bridal party for her wedding to avoid all of this drama
So do I do A- matron of honor. C- maid of honor? But i feel like that leaves B out.
Do I not have one? give one of them my bouquet, the other says a toast and the other sign the marriage license?