(Closed) MOH dilemma

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Who do you think I should choose as my "of honor?"
    A : (2 votes)
    15 %
    B : (2 votes)
    15 %
    C : (0 votes)
    no one : (9 votes)
    69 %
  • Post # 3
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    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    what is a matron of honor? never heard of it. why don’t you designate one maid of honor to do all of the “duties” and leave it at that? go with your “gut” choice that you have for her. you don’t need to explain to people why you chose her, they should be understanding about that if they are really your friends. it’s your wedding after all!

    Post # 4
    Member
    1192 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    @janie-janie: A Matron of Honor is married and a Maid of Honor is not.

    Post # 5
    Member
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    If it’s stressing you out and the other two will be hurt, just don’t have one.  There’s no rule that says you have to have one… 

    And – you can have anyone sign the license.  For example, we have both of our mom’s sign ours.

    Post # 6
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    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    @Anxiouspeanut: oh! ok, so then then they pretty much have the same duties? then I think that if you only have 3 in your party, designate one or none of them to be “of honor”. 2 out of 3 might seem extra-unfair to the one left out.

    good luck!

    Post # 7
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    98 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I voted for the no one option.  We didn’t have a wedding party (husband didn’t really have anyone he really wanted to have stand up with us and he never really understood the point of wedding parties.  And I was happy to have less stress in the way of dresses and such).  But I have been a bridesmaid a number of times.  I think most people just have a single Maid/Matron of Honor whether she is married or not.  And having two would really leave the third girl out even if she is laid back.  In the weddings I’ve been in, the Maid/Matron of Honor duties (giving the toast, throwing the parties, etc) really got split among all the bridesmaids anyway, so the actual title wasn’t a big deal, which is why I voted for option D.  Good luck!

    Post # 8
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    1192 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    @janie-janie: Yup same duties just called something different because one is married.  I also think it is best to only designate one or none for the Maid/Matron of Honor and no more than the one if you choose.

    Post # 9
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    16 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    hav one and pick the one you want, if the others don’t understand then thats their problem (not being mean, but it is your day). i swear Bridesmaid or Best Man r more stressful then the rest of the wedding planning put together

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