Post # 1
Is it acceptable to have a Maid of Honor and a Matron of Honor? If so, is there a formal way they are to stand with me, or ??
I have two of my best girlfriends that I plan to have in my wedding, but cant decide which to make Maid/Matron of Honor. I was Maid/Matron of Honor for “Jane”…so I know she expects to be mine. But in all honesty “Sue” has been a closer friend over the past few years…so I am stumped. I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.
Post # 3
I believe this is quite common. I don’t happen to know the order that they are officially supposed to stand in but I would just have “Sue” stand closest to you because that seems to be what you want. I doubt your Matron of Honor will be offended by standing second.
Also, welcome to the hive!!
Post # 4
The last wedding I was in had a maid & matron of honor. Both were close with the bride, but the Maid of Honor was definitely the lead person and took on most of the MoH responsibilities. This was fine b/c the Matron of Honor was across the country & would not have been a great person for that job. So, I think it is totally acceptable & perhaps even increasingly common, but just make sure you think about how you are assigning any other responsibilities & possible conflicts that can arise over who does what. (I know there have been other posts re: fueding MoHs or one forcing the other out, etc.)
Post # 5
Well the Matron of Honor title is for someone who is married. Are either of these women married? So that helps you with the title. I had a Matron of Honor and a Maid of Honor at first but then the Maid got married unexpectantly so they both had the titled of Matron.
The way I made the decision on who would stand closer was who could help easier with my train in front of everyone. One of my girls is on the heavy side and doesn’t like to draw attention to herself. Understandably. So I had her stand second from me. If her weight wasn’t an issue then I would have picked whoever was closer to me in on the friendship level.
Hope this helps
Post # 6
I have a Maid and a Matron of Honor. My Maid is across the country and my Matron is about 15 mintues away so they divvyed up the shower and bachelorette stuff themselves. What I plan on doing in regard to day of stuff is send them both an email of stuff that Maid/Matron of Honor usually does and have them rank what they’d want to do most vs. what’s not too big of a deal for them. For instance we’re having an Antiochian Greek Orthodox ceremony where we walk around the table so both will walk around with us, but one will hold my train and the other will hold my bouquet or something like that. Either way, they’re both pretty easy going so I don’t think it will be too big of a deal.
Post # 7
Instead of Matron of Honor <— I really don’t like that title, or Maid of Honor, I will be titling my ladies: Lady of Honor. Both get the same title.