- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
My Maid/Matron of Honor lives in a different country so I’m not really expecting much of her or my other bridesmaids (they live far away from me as well). All I was expecting is to get some moral support, help with ideas etc via email or phone. She has promised to throw me a bachelorette party (I will be travelling to where she lives) and they all need to go and have their dresses made (I am paying for it and have already made arrangements). They will all need to travel to my wedding and pay for their own accommodation but so will most of the other guest so overall I don’t think I’m being too demanding…
Now, lately I really can’t get hold of my Maid/Matron of Honor, she has ignored my previous 2 emails (where I was asking about her plans for the bachelorette party – I just need to know when it will happen, so I can make my travel arrangements accordingly as I am also visiting my parents around that time), first I just assumed she was busy and called her later, but she was at a party so couldn’t really talk. She keeps promising to let me know when she is available in skype for a chat, but that hasn’t happened either. When she didn’t reply to my second email either I started to take offence… I know she has a busy job and my wedding is not the most important thing to everyone else, but I still would expect that she can find 5min to write a quick email or give me a call…
And from facebook I know that she is active with other friends, just me that she is not responding to… perhaps I should expect that after living in different countries for several years (before that we have been best friends since high school)?
Also to be fair to her – previously she has been supportive and seemed excited about the wedding etc, just the past few weeks she seems to have disappeared…
I think I am just going to stop all communication with her for now and wait for her to contact me… And see whether she will offer an explanation. I will make my travel plans to see my parents as I wish and the bachelorette party (if I am even getting one) will have to fit in with my existing plans.
So after reading a few posts on Weddingbee about MOHs & bridesmaids it really looks like for the most part they are expected to do a lot, maybe that’s why i’m getting upset – I’m really expecting very little help from my Maid/Matron of Honor and can’t even get a reply to emails… Or perhaps I’m being overly sensitive & dramatic? What would you do?
PS. Sorry for the long post.