- 9 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
So far my younger sis Maid/Matron of Honor has not been helpful at all. She did not offer to plan a bachelorette party and let some else volunteer when they realized she had no intention to do so. When I’ve asked her to help with specific tasks like finding ceremony musicians or a certain color of parasols, she’s turned up with nothing and waited until I did it myself a few weeks later. It seems like every time I email her with a wedding idea she doesn’t like it and says something about what she wants to do for her wedding (she’s not engaged). On the day of the wedding, she’s less concerned with helping out than she is with figuring out who will transport her boyfriend, who doesn’t have a car. And where he will sit if she “has” to be at the head table.
Up to yesterday I kind of brushed it off and just avoided asking her for help. But I emailed her a ceremony reading, simply asking if she’d like to read it at the ceremony. She responded that she didn’t agree with the content of the reading so did not want to read it. What?! It is a very non-controversial passage by CS Lewis about the quiet love that exists in a marriage after the excitement of falling in love.
I’m irritated that I’m trying to finalize the details of my wedding and she’s still focused on soliciting her opinion/critisisms when I didn’t ask for it. Considering she’s my sister, we’ve had our fair share of disagreements and I should have known her behavior pattern would not change, that she will always turn the focus back onto herself. I am trying to just not react to her right now, because there are other things to take care of. Just wanted to vent.