Post # 1
My maid of honor was my sister. I recently got back the pro pics and my moh is in a lot of them. She just gave me a horrible email saying that she wants me to take them off of my facebook and to not hang them in my house or show anyone. I realize that she is way over weight but she is my sister and I dont want to not have any pro pics or pics others took on my walls or anything else. Its bull crap that she is doing it, or am i overreacting.
I also have my aunt who is all apset about it as well that I wont take my aunts pics down either. These gals arent the only ones in most of these pics and I dont think that it is fair. I did take down the ones of my aunt that she was alone in. My sister moh isnt alone in ANY except for one. She wants me to even take down the ceremony pics too just because she is in the background.
Am i over reacting for being pissed at my sister and aunt for asking this of me?
first pic me and my sister
second pic my sister/ my aunt/ me/ and my girls
Post # 3
I’d use your judgment in it while trying to be somewhat sensitive to them. Definitely take down any pics of them alone, and untag them on facebook (if they’re tagged). Also… if there is any where they look bad maybe take those down? I don’t know that you need to have ALL of your photos on facebook ya know? Maybe just a handful. About the pics you hang in your home… that is really up to you.
Post # 4
Your flower girl is making me laugh. Why is she frowning?
Post # 5
I think everyone who accepts the duties of maid of honor knows that they will be in many of the wedding photos… so in a way your sister’s requests are a little crazy. Especially her request that you don’t hang them in your home!! Are you supposed to burn all your wedding pictures now??
Does your sister have a facebook and does she have other photos of herself posted online and just doesn’t like the wedding ones? Or does she not want photos of herself posted online AT ALL (not just the wedding ones)?
Post # 6
Could you maybe take down some of them and put up a cropped version instead?
Not everyone likes their pictuers being up on facebook for the world to see so I can understand where your sister and aunt are coming from there. Definately un-tag them (if they are tagged) and use your discretion on others?
But what you hang in your house is entirely your business.
Post # 7
I guess with FB just tell her to untag pix if she doesnt like them. as for pictures at your house why should she have a say in what you have around the house?
Post # 8
I think it’s reasonable for your Maid/Matron of Honor to ask that photos be removed from Facebook. But saying you shouldn’t display them in your home is too much. It’s your house!
Post # 9
@bRooklynRocks: that’s the first thing I noticed too! haha, I really want to know why she looks so angry.
The sister and aunt, however, look fine, I don’t really understand why they’d be upset about pictures being up in your home, that’s not their decision. I could see if they don’t want them on Facebook, so maybe only put up some of them there, or crop them out, if possible, at least untag them. However, they were at the wedding, posing for pictures, did they really think you would never show them to anyone?? That’s just crazy talk.
Post # 10
@teaadntoast: I agree. Facebook is a touchy topic. It’s a public place, and I can totally understand not wanting pictures up there. But your house?! No, she can’t control what you display at home. I’d take photos off of FB but leave them anywhere “private” (home, personal office, etc.).
Post # 11
@bRooklynRocks: She is mad that we wont let her have candy minutes before walking down the aisle LOL
Post # 12
I say its fair to post a few on facebook – the good ones but leave her untagged in all of them. As far as your own wedding photos in your home… tough cookies but those are your memories and wedding! They’re def going to be printed and put in a wedding book. You can’t control what guests did either so they may have them printed/online too.
Post # 13
@MaggieGirl: I agree with you. People should know that if they are in the wedding party- they are going to get their picture taken. Though I can understand not wanting to be tagged in some pictures on facebook. there are a few of me that I wish never saw the light of day. But the best thing you can do is untag them.
Not hanging them in your house…. that’s a little crazy to me.
Post # 14
If they aren’t tagged in them then there’s no why to like search for them and have that pop up, so they couldn’t make that argument. They should have realized beforehand that you’re going to want to show off the pictures from your wedding day! And you shouldn’t be punished for their insecurities!
Post # 15
facebook is one thing… you home is another. NO ONE has a right to tell you what you can and can’t hang in your own house.
I agree with the others on FB. Crop ’em out and untag them and/or remove them.
Come to think of it… my SIL doesn’t have many of her and my bro on their wedding day up in their house. (will be different with us, since it’ll be one of the rare times we’ll have SO MANY of our friends together in a photo!!! I sooo can’t wait for it! LOL! I’ve already got a photo of me and another friend in a frame on display in our apartment, lol I LOVE photos, so when we get our own house, there will be LOTS of photos around the house…)
anywhos… I’d take ’em off FB and hang whatever I want in my house. One’s the internet, the other is MY HOUSE!!!
Post # 16
OMG! I know this is a serious issue, but it made me laugh so hard to see the little girl frowning AND because my cousin had the same issue! She had an overweight sister (my other cousin) as a Bridesmaid or Best Man (the sister had been FURIOUS about not being the Maid/Matron of Honor, she was really terrible during all the planning), anyway when pictures came out she put them all up on facebook and her sister pitched a fit about how she looked fat in all the pictures (I actually thought she looked decent) anyway, my cousin the bride was so tired of dealing with it that she photoshopped my other cousin out of all the pictures (it was very noticeable) and she posted under all the photoshopped pictures *sister does not want to be on facebook* her sister was even more angry and finally told her she could put the regular ones up. It was so much drama over all the pictures!