posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Is she going through something in her personal life that she might be having a hard time with?  Is she just not a girly-girl type?  Does she even like shopping?

Maybe set aside a little time (like a lunch, or meet for drinks) and have girlfriend time… no wedding talk at all.  You still have time before your wedding that she isn’t late ordering her dress or anything like that.  Just be a friend, see if she’s ok, and take a break from wedding planning for one night.  Some people just get overwhelmed and kind of get like “wedding-talk overload”, know what I mean?


Post # 4
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If she is not the sort of person who enjoys dress shopping, she will not enjoy dress shopping attached to a wedding either.  Remember, you don’t need to have your bridesmaids with you to try on your dress, or to find their dresses – that’s the one thing you can dictate they do (buy a specific dress) as long as it adheres to their predetermined budgets.

MOHs don’t need to help with wedding things.  Its nice if they offer, and many do, but it isn’t the end of the world if they do not.  If you need your help, you can ask your FI!

Ditto PP.  Have you taken time to be with her and hang out in a non-wedding related aspect? 

One last thing, you still have a little time before dresses need to be ordered, so don’t panic!

Post # 5
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Not everyone is into dress shopping. It sounds like a lot of women take their Moms- I knew mine wouldn’t be into it, so I went with Maid/Matron of Honor. If your Maid/Matron of Honor is single, it can be tough to deal with wedding “stuff.” I’ve figured out which of my married girlfriends are excited about wedding planning, and ask for their feedback from time to time.

Post # 6
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I didn’t take mine simply because I knew she wasn’t in to it. She’s the type of girl that would sit there bored to death. And I respect that. Wedding stuff is not for everyone.

MOHs dont have to do a whole list of stuff. Their only assigned job should be to show up at the wedding and enjoy the day.

Post # 7
637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I didn’t bring my Maid/Matron of Honor with me since I know she is really busy with family and kids.  IMO, I think it’s okay to bring a Girlfriend with you, not necessary Maid/Matron of Honor.  Basically whoever is interested helping you out to pick a dress and give honest opinion about it should be your choice.  I have invited both my mom and Future Mother-In-Law to my first dress fitting.  Fiance and I are taking pictures before ceremony so he will see my dress anyway, so I let him go with me on a couple dress shopping too. 

I think if your Maid/Matron of Honor don’t feel like dress shopping, don’t force it.  (IF She is not into your wedding period then that’s going to be a problem.)  Find one of the BMs or Girlfriend who is more excited (usually those who like shopping a lot) to help you with this tasks.  Once you find the one, or a final two, then run by your Maid/Matron of Honor and the BMs. 



Post # 8
1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My Maid/Matron of Honor wasn’t overly excited about it either.  I realized later, that I think i’s hard for her to deal with wedding stuff.  She is 4 years older than, single, and unhappy with her life right now.  I am very careful what I say around her, how much I share with her as I know it’s like salt in open wounds. 


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