(Closed) MOH Drama

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

She needs to respect your wishes. If she cannot, clearly she should just be a guest instead of in your wedding. Don’t make a new shirt (whatever that is for) and throw her into the Maid/Matron of Honor spot. It’s your wedding, you don’t have to change anything just because of her.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

jkeeling93:  Just respond that you are sorry her feelings are hurt, that it was not your intent. Tell her that you hope that with time, she will be able to move past this as it is important to have her with you on your wedding day.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

Being someone’s bridesmaid isn’t an embarrassment. It’s crass that people would openly ask her on FB why she isn’t the Maid/Matron of Honor, but she needs to realize that these people were rude and nosy. IMO too many people get all bent out of shape viewing the bridal party as some ranking-of-friendship contest and so now your friend’s pouting because she’s seeing herself as the runner up in this immature contest instead of focusing on being happy for you and happy to be a bridesmaid. You did nothing wrong choosing a family member as your Maid/Matron of Honor, it’s your decision and lots of people choose family members. Could you have an in-person chat with your friend, maybe over coffee or brunch- and see if you two can patch things up.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Remind her being a bridesmaid is a huge honor and means so much to you. The entire bridal party is special and the Maid/Matron of Honor if often a sister or cousin. She needs to respect your feelings and to just be gracious. This is your wedding and it is an honor to be a bridesmaid. 

since you have already expressed concerned and try to talk about it with her, you’ve dome your part. If you continue to apologize she might think she is in the right. You didn’t do anything wrong! You honored her, if anything. 

As for FB, that sounds ridiculous. I don’t mean to be insensitive, but she voiced her concern/hey and now she needs to suck it up and be gracious. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Someone who deserves to be your Maid/Matron of Honor wouldn’t do this to you.  Someone who deserves to be your bridesmaid wouldn’t do this to you either, FWIW

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

You know what I don’t get? Why do people have the right to have any say in who you want or what you want for your wedding? It’s your choice. 

You picked your cousin, which even if she was disappointEd, she should understand. It was your decision, and she should be happy for you. She should be happy you included her at all considering how she’s acting!

Post # 11
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Worker bee

Tell her to suck it up, buttercup. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

She posted it on Facebook, she chose to embarrass herself. This is her issue, not yours 

Post # 14
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459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

She sounds really immature. Being upset about not being chosen as moh in someone’s wedding is odd. She’s the one who is altering your friendship here – not you. I mean really, sending messages aobut things in middle school and trying to make you reconsider is just nuts. Being a Bridesmaid or Best Man is a wedding is a honor, and besides you are only having two in your bridal party.  It’s hard, but I would black hole anything she sends to you about this – don’t respond. Talk to her when she is back in town.

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