- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Okay. I have a story and then a question.
I asked my BFF to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. I never expected to have my sister in my bridal party in the first place. She promised me growing up that I would be her Maid/Matron of Honor and then BOTH times she got married she eloped and didn’t even bother to tell me she got married. Needless to say, I was hurt. I got over it enough to ask her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man for me, but I don’t particularly want her as my Maid/Matron of Honor. My mother says that she’s hurt and really wants to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, but honestly, even without the hurt feelings, I think my BFF would be a better choice. My sister has two young children and a job with odd hours, plus we live 2 1/2 hours apart. My BFF is a student, so she’s busy, but not as much as my sister AND we both go to school in the same town, so it’s easier to have her around. That said, I go through these periods of being really upset about hurting my sister’s feelings. I’ve told her that I made my decision because she has so much on her plate, but she’s still hurt that I’m not making her my Maid/Matron of Honor.
So tell me, bees. Do you all think I made the right choice? I still feel like I did, but I feel really bad about hurting my sister’s feelings, despite the fact that she hurt mine in the past.