(Closed) No longer have a MOH. . . drama. . .

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I don’t know what advice I can give, but I can say that’s a shitty deal.  Sorry you’re having to deal with this whole family drama in the first place, nevermind the wedding aspect of it.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

No great advice, but it sounds like a sucky situation. So is your sister not coming to the wedding at all?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Perhaps 2 or 3 of the guys could serve as ushers to help balance things out? Or do you already have ushers?

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

You said you arent close to that many girls, are you close to any guys? I know I am a little less traditional, but if I felt I had a guy I wanted to be in the party I would put him on my side. Just an idea.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@madteaparty:  Just saw this.  Jeez, hear your sitch and the restraining order is for the best unfortunately.  I don’t even know what to say except that if this were me, I’d seriously be discussing eloping at this point.  Eloping will serve two points:  you do not have to justify the uneven number of bride/groom party memembers, and, you eliminate all familial stress and you and your Fiance focus on what should be your day of celebration.  Have a huge reception party when you get back, but I’d say f-it to the wedding ceremony with this type of familial sitch going on.  I know my suggestion is easier said than done, but I know of at least two close friends who literally were in the same sitch as you (a fam member indicted, a restraining order, warring in-laws, etc) and happily ditched the wedding because of the major drama.  

I just talked with them over the weekend, both of them, since I’ve gotten engaged and sought their advice on eloping.  Neither one regretted ditching the wedding and eloping.  I’m only putting this out there because I totally understand the stress of you wondering how you are going to make a 2 bridesmaids/5 groomsmen scenario work.   And, yes you are right about it just not making sense to ask strangers/loose acquaintances a ‘stand-in’ Bridesmaid or Best Man.  The whole situation is tough.  Best of luck to you.  Hang in there.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

So sorry you’re going through this.  Family drama is the worst drama in the world.  If anyone asks why your sister isn’t there just respond that she couldn’t make it.  Chances are a lot of people will know what’s going on and leave the subject alone.

As far as the ceremony…even though you only have two attendants it will be okay.  During the ceremony you can go non-traditional and instead of having the BMs on your side and the groomsmen on his side have them gather around you all in a semi-circle.  I think that would be sweet and you wouldn’t feel that things are lopsided.

Good luck to you on everything.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Sorry to hear about your difficult situation :/ weddings get sticky for SO many reasons. They are so much more difficult to plan and deal with than I ever expected.

But I just wanted to tell you that I’m only have 2 bridesmaids/MOHs and my Fiance is doing 2 groomsmen/best men, so that makes our wedding party is us and our 4 best friends. It’s so much easier really. Maybe it’ll be easier for you too?

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@madteaparty:  just read this post…hope everything went smoothly today…CONGRATS!

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