- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013 - Lake Anna Winery
So my best friend and Maid/Matron of Honor and I have been friends since middle school. We’ve been through ups, downs, breaks, and obsessions. Last year, we had a major falling out (she called my daughter baggage), but after 4 months of separation and cooling off, she apologized and it was better. However, recently, it’s gone WAY down hill again and I’m about done. She’s told me she’s really jealous of where I am in life. This has caused SUCH a drift between us and its getting worse.
Here’s the story:
It all started when my better half and I got engaged in March. She was excited but not ecstatic like my other friends. I figured she was just busy or tired or was showing her excitement quietly. No biggie. But, she kept talking about when she was going to get engaged.. 2 years later. We started planning more and more and she started getting bossy. Real bossy. She texted me multiple times a day, being pretty harsh, asking if I was getting things done and if I wasn’t that I wasn’t going to get it done and it wouldn’t be even close to my dream wedding. I nicely told her to back off and she did for a while.
We went dress shopping. Her opinions were starting to wearout their welcome. She kept trying to drive me into dresses that either weren’t flattering or were something opposite of what she wanted in a dress because of course I couldn’t copy her.
When we originially decided on having the wedding at my FI’s family’s property, she was SUPER negative. She said we couldn’t get it done and it wasn’t pretty and looked more like a junk yard.
My mom decided that she would pay for a venue because it was a lot of work to be done at the house, doable but not preferable in 5 months. So, we went on a HUNT for a month and my Maid/Matron of Honor ‘helped’ but all she could do was talk about her own wedding and that I probably couldn’t find anything. A week later, she told me she knew of a venue that was really cheap, gorgeous, and exactly what I wanted but she wasn’t telling me because she wanted to use it for her wedding.. in 4 years. Once she knew it had been booked on our date, she showed me. Thankfully, we found a gorgeous vineyard (without her help) on budget and booked it!
She started ‘planning’ my bridal shower but had about 4 vacations planned between May and July, so she couldn’t find a suitable date. The date changed about 4 times before she finally settled on something that worked for her. Then she gave orders of what she wanted for the shower to my other bridesmaids and left for her many vacations. She only invited 7 of my friends out of 180 people that are invited to the wedding. She also did almost nothing other than call my mom to ask her to buy, prepare, and bring food.
When all the bridesmaids and I got together to look for their dresses, we stopped at a couple jewelry stores to look for my FI’s wedding band. She jumped for joy at one of the stores saying she found her engagement ring. She called her boyfriend and the attention went from me to her.
Now, I’ve been getting closer to one of my other bridesmaids to the point that we are inseparable. She has been everything and more that I would’ve expected from my Maid/Matron of Honor, but sadly can’t fill that position. My Maid/Matron of Honor is beyond jealous to the point that she’s leaving her out of a lot.
I’m at a breaking point and I’m just not sure what to do. I’m not one to even enjoy the spotlight, but this is my wedding. I only get one. I’d really appreciate some support instead of drama and negativity. My Fiance is so over her attitude as well.
I’m at a loss of how to handle it! Help ladies!!