(Closed) MOH drama and now I have an even bridal party…please help!

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should I even out my bridal party? If so, how?

    Have 2 junior bridesmaids walk with 2 groomsmen? (4 GM and 2 BMs and 2 JBMs)

    Ask another girlfiend of mine to be a BM? (3 GM and 3 BMs)

    Keep my bridal uneven...3 GM and 2 BMs?

  • Post # 3
    9 posts

    i’m not sure where it’s written that bridal parties have to be even, but i disagree.  i’ve seen several weddings with uneven parties and saw nothing wrong in that.  as far as walking goes, the guys come in from the side with your groom and the maids preceed you down the aisle.  i think uneven is the way to go in your situation. 

    Post # 5
    60 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    In most of the weddings I’ve been to the BMs and GMs walk together during the recessional.

    Post # 6
    96 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    As PP pointed out, they don’t have to walk in together.  For the recessional, have one lucky lady have two escorts.  I was in a wedding where we had more women than men, so one guy got two women, and he really hammed it up — people loved it!  Plus, for the recessional, people won’t be focused on it — they’ll be watching you and SO walking out.

    Post # 7
    1850 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I think you should keep it as is. Like some other posters said, it’s not necessary that they walk in together. If you wanted them to, them maybe have one of the groomsmen walk down with both jr. bridesmaids at the same time?

    Post # 8
    3048 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    At this point you should probably just keep it as it is. It would be hard to ask another person because they know you are trying to “even” things out. You didn’t ask them in the first place, so why ask now. (I went through this myself with a few in-laws… everything worked out because I honestly wanted them in my wedding, but I didn’t ask them at first so yea… it was awkward). Anyway, it will be fine to have an uneven party. One bridesmaid can have two men if you’re worried about that. I’ve seen that done and didn’t think anything of it. Or they can all walk by themselves. Just focus on having the right people around you on your wedding day! 🙂

    Post # 10
    381 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Sorry you have to go through this! I have the same issue – one of my BMs backed out a couple weeks ago. Although many people think it looks fine to be uneven, if you think it will look better with even sides, then ask another friend. Honestly, most brides care about the aesthetics and having even sides is part of that. Don’t feel bad about asking someone else. I was a “back up” Bridesmaid or Best Man for my cousin in law and in no way did I feel “less important” or on the B list because she asked me. The people who would feel that way are probably not worth being in your wedding party anyway.

    Post # 11
    3363 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    How about having the Best Man up front with the groom in the beginning.  Then have the remaining 2 men and 2 women walk together? 

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