Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor and I got into a huge fight (nothing wedding related) and she dropped out of my bridal party. This wasn’t the first time she did this either. The first time it happened she apologized for all the drama and asked if I still wanted her in my bridal party. Hesitantly, I said yes. And I say hesitatnly because enen though she is a great friend, she is a very selfish person. That is something I accepted about her a long time ago.
2nd time around we got into a petty arguement and first thing she does is tell me she’s dropping out of my wedding. She does this cause she knows it hurts me. She tried to apologize again, but I just couldn’t accept this time. And it wasn’t just the fact that she dropped out of my wedding, but other events that happened that night.
So now I have 2 BMs and no Maid/Matron of Honor and my Fiance has 3 Groomsmen. I don’t know if I should keep it this or if I should ask another one of my girlfriends that I hadn’t asked originally. I happen to think it’d be weird to ask someone to be in my wedding simply b/c someone dropped out.
Another possibility is to have 2 junior BMs and have my Fiance ask another one of his best friends to be a Groomsmen and have 2 junior BMs walk with 2 Groomsmen. Would it be weird considering the JBMs would be 8 and 9 years old and the groomsmen are in their early 30s?
What should I do?
Post # 3
i’m not sure where it’s written that bridal parties have to be even, but i disagree. i’ve seen several weddings with uneven parties and saw nothing wrong in that. as far as walking goes, the guys come in from the side with your groom and the maids preceed you down the aisle. i think uneven is the way to go in your situation.
Post # 4
I haven’t been to too many weddings, but I thought that the BMs and the Groomsmen walked in together, which is why I thought it should be even.
If they don’t walk in together then that is a huge relief and I probably shouldn’t be worrying about this as much as I have been!
Post # 5
In most of the weddings I’ve been to the BMs and GMs walk together during the recessional.
Post # 6
As PP pointed out, they don’t have to walk in together. For the recessional, have one lucky lady have two escorts. I was in a wedding where we had more women than men, so one guy got two women, and he really hammed it up — people loved it! Plus, for the recessional, people won’t be focused on it — they’ll be watching you and SO walking out.
Post # 7
I think you should keep it as is. Like some other posters said, it’s not necessary that they walk in together. If you wanted them to, them maybe have one of the groomsmen walk down with both jr. bridesmaids at the same time?
Post # 8
At this point you should probably just keep it as it is. It would be hard to ask another person because they know you are trying to “even” things out. You didn’t ask them in the first place, so why ask now. (I went through this myself with a few in-laws… everything worked out because I honestly wanted them in my wedding, but I didn’t ask them at first so yea… it was awkward). Anyway, it will be fine to have an uneven party. One bridesmaid can have two men if you’re worried about that. I’ve seen that done and didn’t think anything of it. Or they can all walk by themselves. Just focus on having the right people around you on your wedding day! 🙂
Post # 9
Very true everyone! Thanks for the reassurance!
Post # 10
Sorry you have to go through this! I have the same issue – one of my BMs backed out a couple weeks ago. Although many people think it looks fine to be uneven, if you think it will look better with even sides, then ask another friend. Honestly, most brides care about the aesthetics and having even sides is part of that. Don’t feel bad about asking someone else. I was a “back up” Bridesmaid or Best Man for my cousin in law and in no way did I feel “less important” or on the B list because she asked me. The people who would feel that way are probably not worth being in your wedding party anyway.
Post # 11
How about having the Best Man up front with the groom in the beginning. Then have the remaining 2 men and 2 women walk together?