- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
My Fiance’ and I decided no dates at the ceremony rehearsal (that’s just the way it’s been when we were in weddings). My Maid/Matron of Honor was the only person who cared about this and FREAKED out about it, I told her do whatever, I want to make it work and bring her boyfriend.
“Boyfriend” has been in the picture for about six months and I have never met him. Next issue: Maid/Matron of Honor apparently thought that it was also OK for her boyfriend to tag along to all the last minute errands the day before the wedding, spend the night at my house with me and the other bridesmaids the night before the wedding and then tag along with us the morning of the wedding (hair, makeup, lunch, etc.). I put my foot down on this and said absolutely not, he is not tagging along to these girls activities for my wedding, especially since I have never even met him. They live 1.5 hours away from the wedding location. Maid/Matron of Honor said there is no way she will leave her boyfriend alone in a strange city and hotel he does not know. Boyfriend is 30-something years old and a father of two. He can’t spend a night alone in a hotel in a small, high-class town?
She became hysterically mad with me about this and I spent 1/2 a day crying, trying to apologize to her (for him not being welcome at my house night before wedding and to wedding day activities with bridesmaids) and get her to talk to me again. Finally she would talk to me again, but I received no apology for the awful things she said to me (I’m a selfish b-word). Two days later, she suddenly has to work the morning of the wedding, but will be able to arrive by 9 a.m. (hair apt. is 10 a.m.).
Pondering all of this for four days after our fight, still very hurt about the things she said with giving me no apology, I decided to address my feelings along with the other drama she’s caused since January (not planning the bachelorette party which caused drama with other bridesmaids, wanting to bring her boyfriends 1 y/o to my shower she was co-hosting, not RSVPing, let alone showing up or speaking to me for shower #2, making accusations that my fiance would be going to a strip club the night before the wedding).
She flipped out when I asked what was going on with her and if she even wanted to be in this role anymore. I suspected this would happen as she’s known to be a loose canon. My plan of action to her freaking out on me would be to ask for the dress back and kick her out, knowing this would end our frienship. Sure enough when I addressed this, she said again that I am a selfish (you know what), along with the other long line of bad words you can use your own imagination to fill in. She got very nasty, hence I asked her to return the dress. Throughout the night she continued to send me cruel text. All I wanted was the girls night and day of the wedding which her boyfriend had to be involved in. I also found out today that she made no plans for the bach. party which is in one month, three hours away from home in Chicago. I said if she returned the dress to me, I would send her a check for it. Obv. if she keeps it, then its hers.
Was it wrong to kick her out?