(Closed) MoH drama, only one month to go

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
5243 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

I’m so confused, are you sure you’re even friends?? 

Post # 3
34 posts
  • Wedding: May 2016

She has outright said that she doesn’t want to do it, so I’m not sure why you would even consider still having her?!  She has asked for a way out so give her one.

Post # 5
1521 posts
Bumble bee

This person is not your friend. In fact, I’m getting a sense that she has ulterior motives with regard to your fiance, but that’s my radar going off. Maybe I’m wrong. I’d boot her from the wedding asap and replace her. 

Post # 6
507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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amberrosed :  Sarah doesn’t want to be in the wedding, tell her “ok” and move on. 

No, you do not need to have anyone stand with you.

Yes, you can have uneven sides. 

Most importantly, you are not friends. It sounds like she was your FI’s friend and that is fine. 

No offense, but you all seem a little young. Here’s some advice, get some mature friends who are consistent. Sarah isn’t and that is fine. But when you get married, your focus is primarily on your mate/family, therefore, you need mature friends who are as close to “drama free” as possible. 

Once again, tell Sarah you accept her decline and leave it at that. She’ll more than likely feel like an ass.


Post # 7
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Farm

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amberrosed :  

It sounds like she wants your fiance’. It sounds like she wishe she was in your place.  Either that or she is wanting to get married and she and her so are not there yet.  I wouldn’t have her standing next to me. Either see if you have another friend who would support you or don’t have anyone at all.

Post # 9
4904 posts
Honey bee

You don’t have to fill the space.  In fact, that will likely make whoever you pick feel like you think they are just placeholders and you think people are replaceable.  You either have a close friend you can’t imagine not having by your side or you don’t.  I think you are inflating just how much other people care who is or is not up there or what they think it looks like (spoiler alert: no one else cares).

Post # 10
205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - UK

Have you asked her why she seems so different lately? If she was exited before and now said she would rather be out something must have happened between then and now that has made her change her mind. I suggests you have a good talk.


Oh and your story about her not wanting to eat with you is not strange at all to me. You invite her to dinner she said no thank you I’m going to the shops anyway so ill just pick up something for myself. People don’t need an excuse to say no, they can just say no because they don’t want to. Maybe she just want that time for herself before heading up to you guys. Nothing odd or strange about that. She might have some chores to do, someone to call, a episode of something she really wants to see, or lie on her bed and zone out for 20 min after work, all none of your business. It’s not a lie, she is going to she shop to buy her own food and you need no more info than that. 

Post # 11
6960 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

What have your responses been to her outright rude comments? If she had said anything like that to me numerous times you can bet that I would’ve said something. At least asked her what’s wrong/going on! 

Post # 12
939 posts
Busy bee

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amberrosed :  Good lord, please ditch her. She sounds way worse than my bridesmaid who is flaky and only turns up when everyone else is going and it looks like fun (like she doesn’t want to miss out on fun things) but turns me down with lame excuses and show disinterest when she’s the only one who has to go with me or help out. 

Your friend doesn’t sound like a friend AT ALL (does she even have any redeeming qualities??), what more a Maid/Matron of Honor. A Maid/Matron of Honor position is a very honored position and should only be given to someone who knows and loves you best, why would you give that honor to this person?

Post # 13
10306 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

She doesn’t want to be in the wedding, grant her wish.

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