(Closed) MOH drama what would you do?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What would you do?
    Keep it the way it is leave your MOH as your MOH and other BM as just a BM : (7 votes)
    30 %
    Have your other BM be a MOH too : (14 votes)
    61 %
    other Ill explain : (2 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    7312 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    There is no law that says you can’t have 2 MOHs. If that is what you want to do, go for it!

    Post # 4
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    2701 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think you should leave things the way they are. Demoting someone will only lead to more problems, and possibly someone walking and you’d be down a bridesmaid with only a few weeks to go. Honestly, I am sorry she is being difficult but she threw you a shower (even though she complained about it), and then showed interest in your bridal appointment when she couldn’t make it. That’s way more than any of my girls have done, so I would be happy even with that haha. 🙂

    Post # 5
    Member
    3943 posts
    Honey bee

    @organizedbride11: Just because she is older doesn’t mean she might not be going through a difficult time financially. I would cut her some slack and keep things as they are.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1636 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @organizedbride11:  I say have a talk with her (if you haven’t already) and explain to her your concerns.  It sounds like your Bridesmaid or Best Man is being much more helpful and stepping up. 

    It is your day, so have it your way.  I do like the 2 Maid/Matron of Honor Idea, just make sure SOMEONE knows how to bustle your dress, I would probably invite them both, if they both show up, they are both MOHs, however, if the current Maid/Matron of Honor can’t even make it to that 1 VERY IMPORTANT appointment, I would have to say, in my personal opinion, I would more than likely explain to her that I needed someone I can count on to help me during my special once in a life time day, and due the history, unfortunately, I am not sure how reliable the current situation will be.  

    This is just my opinion.  

    Good Luck and let us know what happens!  

    Post # 8
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    350 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    If you decide to say something, just be prepared for a backlash.  If you can’t bear the thought of her not being in your wedding, it might not be worth it to confront or demote her.  

    Post # 9
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    30 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I would leave it the way it is so things dont get more complicated and just make sure that ‘Steph’ knows how much she is appreciated.  I would also make sure her thank you gift shows the appreciation for all she has done above the other girls.

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