(Closed) MOH Drama…need some input please

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I honestly wouldnt really worry about it.. she is prob just upset because she thought she was going to be your Maid/Matron of Honor and was really let down when she found out she wasnt, if her wedding is that close to yours she is going to have her own wedding to be worried about and esp if your schedules dont go well together i wouldnt worry about her trying to over step. its your wedding day and you have to do what makes you happy.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

A true friend would eventually understand and not hold it against you. Once the dissapointment settles she should get over it. If not maybe she wasn’t a true friend to begin with.

Post # 5
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72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I am so confused! How can someone who hasn’t even asked you to be in her bridal party EXPECT be your MOH? That just makes no sense to me..

Post # 6
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7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@darkness:  That’s what I’m wondering.

 

OP, have you asked her why she expected to be your Maid/Matron of Honor when you’re not in her wedding? 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@darkness:  +1!!!
So true.  Her hypocritical nature means she probably wasn’t a good choice anyway.  If I were planning my own wedding and my bf made me just a Bridesmaid or Best Man or not in the party, I would be damn grateful!!!  Planning my own wedding is stressful enough, let alone helping someone else plan theirs!  Call her on her bs, frankly.  You’re “ruining” the friendship by not asking her, but she’s still in the party, but she never even asked you to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man and that’s fine?  If she is gracious and accepts her role respectfully fine, but if she aggresses towards your Maid/Matron of Honor kick her to the curb.  You don’t need people like that in your life. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

You have every right to pick whoever you want.  I could understand if she wasn’t in your party at all however at the end of the day she’s going to have her wedding and you’re going to have yours.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Don’t worry about it.  I really think with both weddings so close she won’t have time to really help with Maid/Matron of Honor duties if you had stuff in mind for you Maid/Matron of Honor to do.

Post # 14
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149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@BrunettesDoItBetter83:  letting her cool off is a good idea.  Maybe after you explain your position, you could offer to take her out for coffee/lunch with your Maid/Matron of Honor so they can ge to know each other better.  Or take one small job the Maid/Matron of Honor would do and give it to her, like picking your shoes with you or something.  She’ll either be cool about it or she won’t but whatever path she chooses the consequences will not be your fault or responsibility.
All the best!!! 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

@BrunettesDoItBetter83:  so you’re not even in her wedding, and she’s pissed because she’s not your moh? i don’t get it…

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