(Closed) MOH drama…Now what?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@sj8082:  NOPE do not sweat it. She’ll be fine, even more so because she’s related. Ive got a guy pal who is talking all the shit just b.c he isn’t involved in the party though we aren’t close anymore. You dont have to give any amount of justification for your choices. Their immaturity is so not your prob. It also helps that in this sitch you aren’t replacing her..you simply aren’t having that particular title

This to me is the equvialent of saying, “oh, I’m getting married,” to the general public and then getting chewed out because you didn’t invite second cousin so and so even though oh dear lord she knows youre getting married you rude,rude lady!!!

Post # 4
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1639 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@sj8082:  It is very presumptious of her to assume her children will be in the wedding. You have every right to not have children in the wedding and to not have them at the reception.

So she wants to me Matron of Honor but not have the duties that go along with it (that do vary by bride). Does she know she is to help with your bridal shower?

I would nicely tell her that because you do not want anyone to feel slighted you will have no “honors” and everyone will be Bridesmaids. That way it will be no pressure. If she throws a fit let her. It’s just a title that carries no real responsibility.

 

Post # 5
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206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Seems like you are handling this all very well. I think not naming an MOH in your case is a great decision, that way no pressure for someone to have that title! As long as you stand your ground in your decisions and remain firm with her I think you will do great! I made the mistake of jumping to name someone MOH and am now absolutely kicking myself. Her damands do seem quite pushy, so I think telling her to back off and that it is your day (in a much, much poliiter way) should do the trick, and if not, growing up on her end is definitely in order. 

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