Post # 1
Ok I went to Davids bridal to try on dresses with my mom and moh a couple weeks ago. I told her as long as its the same fabric and color dress my wedding colors, she can get whatever.
My mom and my moh were all over the place suggesting things they knew were not chiffon and the green I was talking about. They kept pressuring me to look at things i was not interested in at all. I kept telling them thats pretty but just not what I’m envisioning.
I was looking around on here and found this little gem from someone else!
Not only do I love the style of the dress but that is the exact color I’ve been looking for! I dont care who makes the dress as long as its chiffon and this color green so I am open to anythign like this!
I sent the link to my Maid/Matron of Honor. She responded with a dress that wasnt in the color and fabric that I would like for the wedding. She then continues to say that its too expensive and that she doesnt want to buy one right now.Which is fine because my wedding isnt until 2013 lol.
Is 225 unreasonable for a dress? I understand bridesmaid dress prices. I’ve been there. For my sister-in-laws wedding I spent over 250 on a dress and alterations and spent tons more on my own hair and jewelry and man many other things (and I was unemployed).
I plan on having their make-up and hair done on me as well as getting them jewelry and gifts.
I feel like she is against my decisions and is trying to make this about her in some ways. How can I approach her and let her know I understand where she is coming from but this is my wedding and I would do the same and more for her?
Post # 3
I am using the same dresses as Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses except in graphite! If you go through a wedding consultant you can get the “student” discount (it worked for some girls who aren’t students anymore) and the dress is then under $200 dollars.
Post # 4
How much is the dress that she picked? I am curious to what she wants to spend……
Post # 5
I honestly think its way too early to look at Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. Wait until you’re less than a year out. $225 is also pretty pricey.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
She may have different monetary expectations than you had for your SIL’s wedding. I personally think anything over $160 is expensive for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress since the Bridesmaid or Best Man usually won’t wear it again. I originally budgeted $130 for the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and we ended up with $80 dresses. When I was Maid/Matron of Honor for my Maid/Matron of Honor years ago, I only bought my $70 dress and wore heels I had (no jewelry). 🙂 As PP have mentioned, you have a lot of time, so I’d wait a while and see if you can find something for less.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2011 - Crestmore Manor
The two times I had to purchase Maid/Matron of Honor dresses they cost roughly $150-$175 plus alterations. Since I let my girls pick their own dresses they cost between $30-$80. I think it really depends on the girls, but generally speaking when you ask someone to be in your wedding they should know there will be some serious expenditures in their future. Have you asked her what she is more comfortable spending?
Post # 8
225 and is a lot. Just because that’s how much you forked over once doesn’t mean that’s acceptable to ask someone to spend that much on you. I’m sorry, but I would put up a little bit of a fight on a dress with that price tag.
Post # 9
Personally, I think $225 isn’t bad. All the dresses i liked were around 200. Thankfully, the store I was going to have the girls get their dress at had a groupon offer and the dresses will end up costing $150 instead. 🙂 i’m still pretty excited about that. Anyway, no, I dont think that’s unreasonable. But, unfortunately, different people have different price points and unless your’re willing to subsidize the dress a little, you may have to pick another dress.
That being said, if you’re going for only one shade of green, you’re going to have a really difficult time to find the exact dress you want. if the dress isnt black, there are so many variations in color that it makes it difficult if not impossible to find the EXACT match.
So, if you love THAT dress, you might offer to pay a portion of it. Hope that helps.